Anyone had a row with your partner because of the lockdown?

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Had a big row with DH about who should be responsible to do what around the house, or take care of the kids this morning. I know we all under a lot of stress. I should manage better. Still upset

It's not unusual to be stressed in this situation - none of us has ever experienced it before. Speak to him when you're both calm, talk it out and apologise if you think you could have handled it better.

I don't think it's realistic not to row; it's the moving on that counts.

And yes, we rowed this weekend about absolutely nothing, he was tired, I was mardy and between us we were both dicks. He struggles to own it when he's in the wrong, I'm never wrong, between us we're bound to piss one another off.

Yes, I'd say it's normal to argue a bit more when you're stuck inside with someone 24/7 (as long as it isn't all the time). I've found DH and I are having more disagreements, but also more sex 🙊

If anyone hasn’t had a couple of cross words over all this, they’re doing better than us!

Absolutely everybody I expect.

I imagine a lit of people have had cross words in the last couple of weeks. Dh and I are used to spending a lot of time together, but this is sorely testing us at times, mostly due to the presence of a toddler and a baby. We rarely argue, but I've had to bite my tongue a few times, and I thought he was going to punt our coffee machine down the garden this morning, after an accumulation of little niggles. We're both trying to be aware and not be dicks, because the toddler and the baby are incapable of that, but it's definitely challenging.

We had words yesterday, I am WFH and dh is sitting around A LOT. Told him to find something to do to keep himself occupied or he'll struggle with this as it could go on for weeks.

So I now have a nice clean fridge 🤣 and the garden has been tided up today!

We haven't actually.

DH works in the dining room from 7-3.30. I work upstairs from 1.30-5. I look after DS while he's working, he watches cartoons during the 2 hour cross over, then DH looks after him. We then have dinner together etc.
So we're not really spending very much extra time with each other tbh.
He's also been surprisingly helpful around the house.
We occasionally snap at each other but no more than usual, possibly less.

Maybe it will all change though and we'll be pissed off with each other soon.

We’ve actually been a bit better than normal , it’s weird .
Think it may be that we know it’ll just make it seem worse if we’re as stubborn as normal

We’ve had a few cross words; but not any more than I would expect after seeing each other constantly for 21 days, and trying to balance both working from home full time and caring for small child.

But there’s no one else I’d rather be locked down with

No, strangely. We’re getting on much better than usual. We’re talking more and having more meaningful conversations, discussing important stuff like finances, wills etc and generally agreeing on the important stuff.

We actually talked about why that might be, because we’ve both noticed a distinct reduction in tension between us. We concluded that we’re both suddenly aware of our own mortality and that neither of us is getting any younger (66 and 73), and that maybe petty squabbles and silliness are best left behind us.

It’s taken us this long and a serious pandemic to make us grow up, but, hey, we got there in the end. Happy days ......

We had several the first week. We've settled down a bit now. I myself have been making a huge effort to let things go that might normally cause a disagreement, and just try and be more patient.

No we have been great and I'm actually surprised how well the three kids have gotten on too. Usually they have niggles at each other each day but the only day we had a bad day with the two youngest arguing was last Friday but other than that it's been strangely harmonious.

My husband keeps himself busy doing things like painting the fence, re-felting the shed and painting it, cutting the grass, tidying the garden and hes teaching himself how to play guitar. He cooks every night and does more than his fair share of cleaning, washing clothes, looking after kids so its been fine and no where near what I imagined as I was worried wed all be fighting non stop.

No. Although dp has been working from home for over a year and I was a SAHM up until February when I got a part time job, so we're quite used to be around each other all the time.

Not a row, but I'm getting bloody fed up of him effectively working 12-14 hour days. His work is a cross between a pirhana(sp) and a vampire.

Nope but only because he won't join in if I'm having a go, he just carries on as if it didn't happen 🙄

No, but after more than 4 weeks under one roof 24/7 it's getting more likely by the day.

We are actually getting on better, much happier, mostly because we had alot of debt before this virus hit, and now everything has been put on a temporary stop, so the daily talks about finances and money have stopped.

However, a severe lack of sex since lockdown. I'm so jealous of all the women saying they're getting more than usual! I'm struggling having a 6'2 man who I find gorgeous around the house 24/7 and his total lack of interest in having his way... driving me crazy!

Anyone else having less sex during this?!

We've had words because DH has basically just uses up any extra time with more work. I use all my free time with the kids or planning for the kids.

I'm naffed off with him tbh. We have similar jobs at a similar grade.

Not yet but it's coming!

Anyone else having less sex during this?!

Me, I'm suffering from pregnancy nausea and fatigue and sex is the last thing on my mind.

yes ,daily .sat in tears lots of nights too

All the time. I'm working in the kitchen so he (& my 3 kidults) assume I'm the tea lady & general housekeeper on top of working 5 dpw like the rest of them.

DH also works odd hours as he's talking to teams in different time zones so oftn comes to bed hours after me & gets up hours after me. Then complains he doesn't get sex.