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Covid affecting my relationship/feelings for boyfriend

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elodiegrace · 06/04/2020 22:56

Have only been with partner for 10 months, but things were quite fast paced and we've been living together for about 7 of those months. Due to covid I've chosen to lockdown at my parents home as I'm immunosupressed and a severe asthmatic, while my partner stays 3 hours away in our flat still working. We are looking at 12 weeks apart at the least (right?).

However I'm finding it incredibly hard. As he is on his own he's getting quite depressed and, while I understand, it means he's spending his free time either drinking on his own or getting so bored he keeps starting arguments. I feel like I'm being worn down, and while I understand this isn't how things are normally, I feel like I'm just getting very detached. It feels like I've ran out of feelings for him? Which sounds awful to admit but I just don't know what to do. Part of me thinks well it'll be over in 9/10 weeks and things can go back to normal, but another part of me thinks well I want to do camp america, etc, in the future and if he acts like this over 12 weeks apart how is that going to work? It just feels like he's wanting me to be glued to my phone all day, if I don't text back within half an hour he's phoning me or, if it's late, sending me more messages like "aw why are you asleep :(" etc, it's sending me crazy.

I know some might say oh well he just loves you and wants to talk to you, but I've always been very happy to be in my own company etc and I'm feeling quite suffocated by it all.

I just want to know if a lot of people are feeling the same? Or if I'm being unreasonable? Just feeling very emotionally detached from him.

OP posts:
pallisers · 07/04/2020 00:39

to which he said if I ever had a baby with him and didn't end up following that tradition he would leave me on my own.

This is awful. Not irritating but a sign of something to be avoided. 10 months in he should be trying to please you and entertain you and have you find him lovely and kind and nice- not fucking telling you that his dad (seriously!) will name your future putative child.

You'll look back on this time as one of the benefits of cv19 - opened your eyes to him in a way you wouldn't have otherwise. You'd have ended up pregnant with a man like that.

honestly OP, the only reason I wouldn't break up with him is if he is on his own and it would be hurtful to do it. Cut contact way back. See this through and then ... well I'd be gone.

Actually Flossie a few posts back said it perfectly. Blessing in disguise.

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