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Aibu to be pissed off?

8 replies

Cb2018 · 06/04/2020 15:28

So I live in London. Ex has our son every other weekend and extra time in the holidays. There is a court order in place for this. He went on Saturday and is due back on Thursday.
I spoke to ex prior to my son going just about the government guidelines to make sure he fully understood and would stick to them.

Yesterday my son called and said that they had been on a bike ride. Fine, it was their daily exercise. He has his own bike but ex used Boris bikes. He had to change twice (not sure why) so 3 bikes! i asked son if ex had used sanitizer/gloves etc and he said no.

His partner (who he lives with) had also taken her 2 children along with her mum (who doesn’t live with them) around some shops!

Am I being unreasonable for being completely pissed off? I’m pregnant and have 2 small children at home as well. I’m sticking to the rules for all of us. But seems pointless when he isn’t.

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HeartyGreenSalad · 06/04/2020 15:33

No, you're not. It's people like your ex who will make this carry on
What a complete and utter wanker

EL8888 · 06/04/2020 15:34

Yep. If I was you then I would be raging. Does his father have a brain?!

Butterymuffin · 06/04/2020 15:37

He's been stupid, but it's still worth you sticking to the rules as every time you avoid contact with others you cut down your chance of catching it.

Doyoumind · 06/04/2020 15:41

This is one of the problems with contact for children. I agree it has to continue but you do everything you can to keep your family safe and then hand your DC to another household and have to rely on them behaving properly. I've had problems with his myself and I feel like there isn't a solution because my ex is selfish and obstinate at the best of times.

Cb2018 · 06/04/2020 15:50

Nope! He definitely has no brain!
You are correct he is a wanker. I’m not sure if I’ve name changed but if I haven’t then my previous posts probe that!

Should I say something to him? We don’t have a good relationship at all.

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Cb2018 · 06/04/2020 15:52

I will 100% respect the rules still, not just for the safety of my own family but for others too.
I’m not a selfish twat like him.

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Windyatthebeach · 06/04/2020 15:54

Imo you keep your dc from now on.
Let a judge decide you have broken the court order unnecessarily....

Cb2018 · 06/04/2020 23:56

I’m seriously thinking about doing that.
My anxiety is so bad with this virus so I didn’t know if I was being ‘over the top’ but I’m glad everyone has confirmed I aint.
I’ve sent him an email. Read but no reply.

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