The nest , to think there should be a warning?

[Fromthebirdsnest]

Watching the nest tonight where there was a very early baby born suddenly and although ok for now it's unknown what will happen there was no disclaimer at the start such as "some viewers may find distressing" as a mum to a 23 weeker that lived for 2 hours, it's had me in pieces this evening I know some people may think I'm being silly but.I find it very difficult to watch especially as it caught me off guard , my little girl died a long time ago and we now have 3 beautiful living children (though many miscarriages though this and after ) I just think of other mum's that may have gone though this recently and I just wish although it would be a bit of a spoiler to have a bit of a warning at the start .. Is that unreasonable?

I personally would have expected a warning if the baby had died, but not for a surviving baby ... even if it was born early.
Sorry OP, I mean that as gently and sensitively as I can.

I agree with you completely.

My dd and I watched some film or other (Anne Hathaway with a dreadful yorkshire accent) with a shocking and unexpected sudden death. As we as a family had recently suffered a sudden death it was horribly shocking and upsetting.

I'm so sorry you've experienced this, birds. 💐🌺🌷

I'm assuming these dramas don't have warnings as they are usually on after 9pm. I do agree that need a warning on though, especially where the event in question is so unexpected.
Sorry for your loss.

YANBU and sorry for your loss.

I'm so Sorry for your loss springydaff .. I'm glad I'm not being completely unreasonable , I find that I'm a bit sensitive in the few weeks around mothers day as there will always be someone missing , and her birthday tends to be a day thats a struggle , although I do write her a letter every year , I was in the attic looking for something and went though her little box last week so I think it made it quite fresh, I've got my big girl pants on now x

I’m watching on iPlayer with subtitles on and there was a warning about scenes some viewers might find upsetting.

I’m so sorry for your loss and that this has been difficult for you

It did have a warning at the beginning. However, the scenes of the baby being delivered were extremely over-the-top and unnecessary. I understand how distressing that would be for many.

I saw it and thought the same. I imagine it would have been very distressing. It was unnecessarily graphic as well. There was no need for the surgical detail.

I'm sorry for your loss. I thought of people who had been through that experience when watching.

I still remember trying to watch American Horror Story with DH a day after we found out I’d had a second missed miscarriage. The main character lost a baby so was clearly still grieving and I just fell to pieces, couldn’t continue watching it. We were watching it as some sort of escapism, didn’t expect that storyline at all. It’s so shit when things trigger it, sorry for your loss OP .

It was a bit sudden wasnt it? There didn't appear to be a suggestion that it could happen.
All of a sudden they were making brutal incision.

All of us went "Woah!" And not because we are squeamish, but because it was unexpected.

YANBU, not because they need to give a specific warning to those with prem babies, but because it was unexpected. Usually you get a feel for these things and either prepare, shield your eyes or turn over.
There was no chance of that last night.

Agree it was unreasonable and unexpected. I'm 24 wks - same age as the girl there - and it made me very emotional.

YANBU for suggesting there should have been a warning.
YABU for posting so much info without a warning for those of us yet to watch.... (lighthearted)

There was a generic warning but they can't really give a specific one as it gives the story away.

Op, I totally agree because it can bring back difficult memories

You are definitely not being unreasonable. I suffered ptsd after my twins were born prematurely and absolutely everything around birth was a huge trigger for me. Even now after extensive therapy, i am still very sensitive to anything depicting birth trauma and if something like that was sprung on me then it could be hugely damaging to me. I still actively avoid depictions of birth. It brings up all kinds of horribly complicated feelings. Just because there was a warning it doesn't mean you're not allowed to be affected.

I'm really sorry for your loss. You don't need to put big girl pants on.

Sorry for the spoiler rocking ! I know It would kind of give the story away but as it's such a serious topic i think there should be more said , my 4th was also in nicu but at 34 weeks and only for a day then scbu for 10 days when your baby is born early it does give a degree of ptsd and I actually never went back to work after my youngest due to the fact I wanted and still want to spend every moment with him as I was so grateful history didn't repeat itself he is 4 now , he's actually never been to nursery or stayed the nigh t else where due to this, I'm so sorry to others that have been though baby loss of traumatic births/early births too, you are not alone ... Thank you to all the pps for all your kind comments and support .. I won't watch the rest of the nest for now maybe i will get my husband to watch first to let me know if the baby is ok and then continue if she is ... The whole point is this does happen to a lot of people daily and you shouldn't have to watch things unknowingly that may be very upsetting in my opinion x

Totally agree and I'm sorry if my comment was insensitive x