Would you give a mask?

[millian]

I have some masks to go food shopping (the only time I go out every fortnightly or so).

We have 2 left and MIL has asked DH if she can have them. My problem probably isn't the masks.
MIL has seen our 3 DC all just on the day they were born and then never asks about them, comes around to see them (she lives 2 streets away) or ever wished them birthday or any celebration wishes. She'd ignore my texts asking for help when DH was working away and has said in the past she'd take DC out at 2pm I got them ready and waiting at the door and she never showed up. We haven't spoken since then which is about 7 months ago.
I told DH to tell her to wrap a scarf around herself but she insisted on masks and that she'll drive by our front door to collect them.
That's what's pushed me off the edge because she has never come around to see her own grandchildren but will drive by for a mask, never helped me out and now in theory expecting my help. I'm really hurt and when it comes down to speaking with DH it's always "she's still my mum"

What's the solution?

Nope. She sounds horrible but then I’m definitely not one of those blood is thicker than water types like your husband seems to be.

How does she know you have them given the little contact?
You’ve used them haven’t you ?

Nope, I wouldn't. 2 is nothing, if you lost yours or it got stained somehow then you'll need them.

She can buy them on ebay.

How did you get hold of the masks? If you bought them, hide them.

No I don't think you should, you need them yourself. Don't feel bad.

How old is she.? Should she be self isolating!

@Outtedagain she keeps in touch with DH and they have a good relationship - I don't want to strain that I just don't want to be a part of it because besides DH she has no interest in any of us, including her Gkids. DH just agrees that she isn't a good grandmother but says she has been a good mother.

No, fuck that.
Hide the masks and deny all knowledge.

@SharonasCorona Yes! She can buy her own! I'm sure she's guilt tripping DH to giving them her and we buy our own.

Your DH can’t give away YOUR masks. Tell him to source some himself for his mother.

@Jane10000000 She's in her 50's with a teenager living at home and dogs so she also has to go out to do her food shopping. I'm not really willing to food shop FOR her if I'm honest!

She’s 50 FFS she doesn’t need a mask to go shopping just keep them and use if you really need to and what is she going to do with just 2 anyway. Tell your DH no!

Masks do provide some protection when people in front of you cough on you.

But they are still available to buy. She's just being tight.

Just give them to her, 2 masks really won’t make any difference to an average household. Or stand firm and ignore the request.

She’s sounds really difficult, and uncaring. I feel for you having to deal with such a person. Your DH telling mum he has masks has caused her to think she Is missing out on something you have. And she now wants it! Survival of the fittest is strong with this person. Unfortunately she isn’t clever in her decisions.

I'd be tempted to ask your husband if his precious mother is more important to him than his wife and children.

There's no way in hell she'd be getting my masks, if she'd treated my children that way. Let her fend for herself.

I'd go so far as to hide them and tell "D"H that you can't find them/used them already. Then miraculously discover them under your socks the next time you need them.

She sounds very self involved like my husbands mum. She keeps posting memes and inspirational quotes about being a grandparent and missing/loving her grandchild. Yet when my husband rings her she is all me, me, me. Doesnt ask about him or the little one.