To think it's become petty?

[mumgonemadkg]

To cut a very long story short, Partners ex's have made an "ex-wife club"! They talk all the time even though they apparently hated each other's guts before they were ex's. Me and partner have been together nearly 3 years now and we have two children each from previous and two with each other. So 6 altogether (eldest is 19 youngest 7 months). Never had a problem with either ex's before as never had any interaction with either of them. But now I'm being slagged off all the time by them both and really starting to get pissed off about it all, we're not kids and I have never said a nasty thing or risen to the silly remarks before and still won't but AIBU to think this is just silly and petty? SD has picked up on things being said now and has questioned why her mum hates me? (Their was no affair or anything they split and Divorced before we got together) I have no idea how to answer that as I assumed there was no problem before?!

Sorry it's long I suppose I'm not sure what I'm after or if this is just ranting!

Why does this man have no problem with just impregnating women willy nilly? I’m
Not surprised he’s unpopular!

He sounds like a catch.

Ohhhhh OK then. All his exes were crazy. Every last one.

At least you know what your title will be when you join their little group. Discussions for you all, to pass the time

1st topic: Men who are drastically allergic to condoms.

2nd topic: What does 'common denominator' mean?

I hope all the assorted DCs are fine in all this though. You sound ok but with all those children & exes in the mix you should have expected some fallout and you'd be wiser to ignore it now. Tell your SD to ask her Dad the reasons.

If exes are all in touch at least all the step-siblings know each other I'm guessing, would it have been that way if left to their dad I wonder

It’s not much of a club is it, with only two members ?
And only one of them actually married your partner. So not ex wives anything.
Just two women with a problem with your DH, funny that. Hmm...

I think it's fabulous! You should make a film of it!
And you know, if you can't beat them, join them! They sound fun!

I couldn't get worked up about this.
You have a partner whose ex's don't like him, just move on, but be polite as his past means you could be joining them soon.

Posters seem to be making assumptions about a man they know nothing about.

Perhaps he is a shit head. Perhaps not.

Regardless, his exes shouldn't be slagging you off. They are very silly and immature.

As your SD is aware then I personally would talk to the exes about what impact they're having and also to get clarity on what is actually being said and why.

"If you go out and meet an asshole in the morning, they're the asshole. If you go out and meet assholes all day long, YOU'RE the asshole". But in this case the common denominator is HIM, not you. Just be prepared that someday you too may be a member of the club, even if you're never an active participant.

Your DP should be speaking to DSD's mother and asking/telling her to not slag you off in front of her. And he should be having a gentle talk with DSD to explain that sometimes people are wrong about other people and say things that not nice and aren't true . And that we should never make up our minds about someone because of what another person says about them.

Whatever the rights and wrongs about the partner there is no need for the exs to be slagging off the OP particularly to be doing it in front of a confused 10 year old child.

He might not be great he might be wonderful but they aren't behaving well.

I think it's possibly been the birth of the second baby which has prompted this. Unless there's been a change in contact or maintenance.

It is childish and it's your DH that needs to ask his ex how he answers his DD when she asks why they have done this. He also needs to ask her what they do if bullying starts online towards or by his DD, because her Mother is a perpetrator and while have no room to talk.

Sign of the times. stupid and shallow people, who use social media, to inform others about their fantastic,idiotic drab lives, and their phone addictions.

why did your friend bring this information to your attention ? You where blissfully unaware and why is this friend , friends online with your husbands ex’s?? And how did your step daughter see all this ??? It sounds like your SD needs her privacy settings in her social media looked at pronto
Tell your friend you want no part of it and block all channels of communication from exes and get your partner to inform the exes that their antics have upset a child

Never mind Jeremy Kyle might invite you all into the show so you can publicly fight over the 6 stone, jobless, toothless red-neck!

4 children by 3 women? What a catch!

How old are your 2 children @mumgonemadkg