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To just want things to be normal?

38 replies

Jourdain11 · 04/04/2020 00:07

I know it's stupid and selfish to think like this when everyone is having such a tough time and people are fighting for their lives and losing loved ones. I'm just having a tough time personally, and I feel like I could cope with it if there was some semblance of normality. I just want to be able to be with my kids... I want to see my mum (who lives in France)... I want to be able to go out for a walk as a family. And everything just feels so horrible and like it will never be okay again.

I need to pull myself together. Definitely BU.

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Doobigetta · 04/04/2020 00:10

It’s not stupid, and YANBU. Me too.

AlexaShutUp · 04/04/2020 00:12

YANBU to feel that way. I imagine that most of us would appreciate a bit of normality right now.

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Jourdain11 · 04/04/2020 00:12

It just feels like life has turned into a weird dystopian reality. I remember watching Years and Years last year and thinking, thank goodness that won't actually happen. I think this is worse!

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Jourdain11 · 04/04/2020 00:13

IABU to act like a child over it, though!

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LimitIsUp · 04/04/2020 00:15

Everyone has their off moments / days, it's completely normal to feel this way

RonnieBarkingMad · 04/04/2020 00:17

You’re away from your kids and can’t see your mum? No you’re not BU or acting like a child, that would be hard for anyone, certainly for me

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Jourdain11 · 04/04/2020 00:18

I think I'm having an one-week!

I had some bad news on Wednesday. I just feel like normally I could deal with it, everything would be okay. But that on top of the dismal lockdown miserable global situation, it honestly just felt like too much!

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Femail · 04/04/2020 00:19

Yanbu I wish it was to. Had 2 birthdays dd and mine and stuck in doors or me at work

audreysview · 04/04/2020 00:20

I know it doesn’t feel like it op, but it WILL go back to normal, it won’t always be like this. Maybe not quite the same normal but things will get better. Try not to worry.

pigsDOfly · 04/04/2020 00:25

No you're not BU. I know what you mean.

Most people's lives are pretty ordinary, but even so I think all of us just want our lives back.

Every so often I get a sort of 'this can't be happening' feeling. It's just so weird and surreal.

We have no idea when this is going to end and many of us are genuinely fearful.

I know many people who aren't sleeping well and finding it quite difficult to concentrate. I've been having weird dreams as well. There's a sort of low level anxiety all the time.

I haven't hugged any of my children or grandchildren for weeks because we were being careful even before the lockdown started.

We've been Skyping regularly and we have a family whatsapp group and text and call one another all the time. All these things help, but it's not the same as spending time with them.

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Jourdain11 · 04/04/2020 00:26

Thanks for trying to cheer me up. I know that everyone is having it tough right now.

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Jourdain11 · 04/04/2020 00:28

I just hate that I'm going to be separated from my DC for ??? who knows how long!

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thaegumathteth · 04/04/2020 00:30

Why are you separated from your DC if you don't mind saying? or are they adults?

It's shit . I would love nothing more than to have all the streets kids in my garden this weekend eating me out of house and home and driving me mental with minor whines and moans.

pigsDOfly · 04/04/2020 00:31

Everyone is having it tough, but you're going through, your own tough time and that's the tough time that's affecting you, if that makes sense.

This will end. A lot will have changed but life will return to something like normal at some point. Just have to keep moving forward.

maddening · 04/04/2020 00:31

How old are your dc?

mumpymo · 04/04/2020 00:39

Yanbu. I'm finding that I can forget about it all for a few hours, then it hits me that the world has went completely mental. Everything is just so scary just now. If there was an end date I think it would be easier to deal with but there isn't and it's just bleak.

My DD is 4 and missing out on so much it's heartbreaking. Feel so trapped.

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Jourdain11 · 04/04/2020 00:42

DC are 7, 6 and 4.

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Jourdain11 · 04/04/2020 00:46

@mumpymo It is SO sad how much they've had to lose out on, and without fully comprehending the situation as we do, too.

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Wehttam · 04/04/2020 00:51

It’s a shitter that’s for sure OP. I didn’t realise how much I loved my normal basic boring little life. We are all in this together though!

ChipsyChopsy · 04/04/2020 01:02

YANBU. Most of us are barely scraping through, and I think a further stressor on top (ill health, financial woes, mental health deterioration, family issues) would push me beyond my limits.

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Jourdain11 · 04/04/2020 01:09

@thaegumathteth Sorry, I just realised that I didn't answer your question!

DC are going to their grandparents for the foreseeable on Sunday. I am starting chemo next week and DH is a key-worker; we live in a flat in London and it just wasn't practical to have me self-isolating, him working, and the DC bouncing off the walls in one fairly confined space. We thought it would be less traumatic for them to go to GPs.

Which is all very fine and well, but I just feel awful to send them away. If it wasn't for this, I could volunteer or at least do something useful. But it's a rubbish combination of circumstances and timing.

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Jourdain11 · 04/04/2020 07:37

Sorry, I already feel embarrassed - this sounds very flakey!

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ChewChewIsMySpiritAnimal · 04/04/2020 07:41

Bloody hell you've got a lot to cope with Sad it will be hard but you're doing it for the right reasons.

gordongopherthe3rd · 04/04/2020 07:49

That is absolutely not flakey.

ChazP · 04/04/2020 08:59

YADNBU. For me it’s the not knowing how long this will continue. If I just knew when life would go back to normal I think I could get my head down and push through, but are we in lockdown for a month, 2 months, 6 months???