WIBU to strike tomorrow?

[Teacher12345]

Everything appears to come dwon to me at the moment. DH sits at his computer watching crap and I am making meals, monitoring the kids, stopping them from watching TV and instigating fun things.
I told DH tonight that he needed to help more. He said he will but it felt like an empty promise to be honest.
WIBU to instigate nothing tomorrow? I won't instigate the daily walk, I won't check what everyone wants for lunch, I won't instigate games to reduce the amount of TV being watched. Instead, I will go upstairs, put my headphones in and please myself.
Or is that petty? I'm just so sick of being the fun police and general dogbody. We have weeks left of this!

Definitely go on strike. No food, none of the emotional load. Be prepared for it not to go as planned though.

Crikey0000 the only plan is to get accross to DH that there is more to be done than staring at screens.
Maybe he still won't give a shit but I am fed up being the fun police. They can all be bored.

Go on strike

I would say go for it, but generally all that happens in these scenarios is that DH and DC have a slob day, DH can say he's done "your job" for the day and it was easy, and you'll be even more resentful and pissed off than before.

Would it actually bother him/them if they spent all day on screens and just chucked together some sandwiches or crisps? Not saying it's ideal, but just saying that a single day strike might not have the desired effect.

Go on strike OP. But it will probably back fire like others have said, the kids will love lounging around in front of the telly and be glad mum isn't nagging them all the time.

Meant to add - it's worth it in that you won't be running around being taken for granted at least.

In short - go for it, enjoy a day (or several!) to yourself, but don't hold out much hope for an epiphany from any of them.

Oh no, OP. Have you put your back out? You need lots of bed rest, peace and quiet. With wine, chocolate and magazines for the pain.

No weirdandpissedoff it might not. But they have had quite a few of them recently because I am trying not to nag, even though I know it’s in their best interest for me to take the screens away. They are only 7 & 4 so it does have to be enforced but for DH that’s just the easiest option so he lets them. He did actually play loads of games with DD on Wednesday morning and it was so nice to see. But we have been home for 3 weeks now and that’s the first and last effort he has made.

Iklboo, you may be right! I do have a bad back 😉

Can you have a rule that weekends are for gaming/films/pj days and more relaxed food, and the weekdays will have more structure and proper meals etc?

I know it is hard (as in exhausting!) constantly supervising but at 4 and 7 your children do need adult led input, so can you and DH divide up responsibilities for the duration- for example split the homework supervison, you do maths DH does English etc, and have a clear list of who is responsible for which chore - you will cook but DH does dishes and cleans kitchen, you hoover DH wipes the bath etc?

Like the no one sits down til the housework is done rule there should also be a no one sits on their laptop if the other is busy.

FreeKitties - we can have rules, but DH cannot be bothered to enforce them. I can give him responsibility, but he won't ever get round to doing it without a prompt.

Have you sat him down and told him how you are feeling - and that you need his support, lay it out for him that you can't carry on living like this.

And I think HennyPenny's rules are brilliant.