To wonder what has happened to all the men leading double lives during lockdown?!

[ellabella18]

Just that really!

Lockdown must be the worst nightmare for those leading double lives! Who do they choose to isolate with?!

It will all come out

Yes I've wondered this. And people having affairs in general.

Oh my heart bleeds for them !
Really couldn’t care less .
This is most people’s worst nightmare.

DP and I were talking about this last night - how many unaware OW might be out there wondering why their 'boyfriend' has ghosted them.

Probably come up with some cock and bull story about being key workers and having to self-isolate alone.

I'm thinking it must be agonising for all these people to be forced to stay in with their families, instead of some bizarre hobby that is so identifying, yet not that unique as clearly there are more members lol.

Although the title should say all the people.
Women cheat as well

I've been thinking about this, my dad is a pathological liar. He was engaged to my mum for 10 years and whilst still engaged to my mum he married the woman he was having an affair with.
My mum went in his stag night and didn't know! She also only found out by coincidence! I have a sister who is 1year older than me and a brother who's 4 months younger! He had two whole lives with different women I often wonder these days what he would be doing now!

I was at school with a child whose mum went shopping in a different town one day only to bump into her dad with another woman and their two children, he'd been living a double life for ten years!

My heart goes out to anyone who has made this kind of discovery during lockdown without having their support network around them.

I doubt we're talking big numbers here

I reckon they'll carry on as usual - go out to meet on the sly. Or otherwise get very stressed and frustrated at home. Coronavirus won't stop people who aren't afraid to defy marriage and relationships.

they'd class it as an essential trip out for a quickie then pick up a loaf of bread blaming the queues at the supermarket.

If they are not living with one family, then easy. Claim work is really busy, or they have taken extra hours on working at a supermarket, or volunteering. With family they live with volunteer to do shopping, nip round to second families house, do shop and claim it took ages to even get into supermarket because of the queues.

I do.know someone whose mum. And dad were having a very long term affair and his Dad had a wife and two older sons ,they all knew about each other but never met ,and his Dad kept living between his two families ,he met his Dads wife and two older ( half ) brothers at their Dads funeral.

I know of someone with a secret life. The man had a affair and the woman fell pregnant. He is a part of the DC life, yet his wife and other kids dont know. The DC is 15 now so it's been going on a long time. He used to worry when the DC was young if he ever accidentally saw them in public that they would shout daddy in front of his wife. Hopefully he comes clean one day! Not sure now the DC feels knowing they are a secret

I know of one. Very sad story really. OW was blissfully unaware of the DW's existence for several years, really believed 'D'P would move in with her once they'd saved the cash (seperately) to buy a flat.

Then she discovered he'd been lying to her and the DW for several years and they split for a few years. Then he apparently split with his wife (having had a child in the meantime) wanted to get back together with my friend but two years on isn't "ready" to move in with friend.

She knows he did a terrible thing and he hurt her badly but she loves him and believes he's sorry. She's not able to tell anyone they're together because her family hate him and his would be devastated that he's moved on.

He's chosen to isolate with his wife and child for the sake of the child.

It's been blatantly obvious to onlookers all along but what an awful time for your world to fall apart (again)

I've noticed during my runs in the woods that a lot of people on solo walks are in my way dawdling in the middle of the path on their phones rather than taking actual exercise and being aware of who is around them.

You'd think, especially when you have plenty of time on your hands, that most phone calls could be made from a comfy sofa.

They will turn into grumpy fuckers and be worse than usual to live with.

Probably come up with some cock and bull story about being key workers and having to self-isolate alone.

This.

I’m guessing they would be living somewhere that OW couldn’t come- parents/flat share etc and would say they are “looking after family”

Yes to the needing to make phone calls outdoors! Definitely suspicious atm as any normal calls could definitely be made while at home. There was a man loitering in my alleyway having a long phone call in hushed tones. Annoyingly I couldn’t understand the language so couldn’t earwig but suspect it was a secret lover

I have posted this before:

My DC had a schoolfriend whose Dad worked abroad and I became friendly with the mum as part of a small group. He came home briefly about 4 times a year. He worked in a country that had been a bit risky but was fine at the time. My DH worked in a neighbouring country and we went there or to a 3rd nearby country each school holiday. I suggested to the mum that they did the same as it was a great cheap holiday but her DH wasn't keen. I met the Dad a few times over the next couple of years. At there was some talk of him moving to a different country but he refused and lost his job- but got another that paid a bit less in the same place which I thought was a bit odd as the other country was a much better place to live and much nearer to the UK.

About 6 months later I was on the beach at a hotel in the 3rd country talking to a family from the same country as he was working in. The mum was local but the dad was originally from the same area that we lived in and we got chatting and met up over a few days.

At one point they mentioned where they lived/who they worked for and I said- ooh I know someone who works for XX and named him. They said that they knew him and their children often played with his family! I played along a bit and by the end knew the ages of his 3 children and the name of his "wife" . It was definitely him as they knew all about the company move and that he had a family and "ex" wife in our town.

So he had a second family abroad. I didn't know what to do- I didn't know if my friend knew about it all the time. We had moved house/schools and so I no longer saw his wife daily but we did keep in touch.

In the end I went too see her mother who I knew quite well and told her. They were divorced within a year- she got the house outright. She didn't know but had suspected an affair (not 3 children).

So it comes out in the end even if half way round the world.

Are you referring to the PM?

One of my friends does online dating and says there's a huge number of guys who are only ever available to message after about 10pm during the week.

I do wonder whether they'll all still be risking it.

Oh yes I was thinking about this!!

Those having regular affairs will hopefully probably get found out whist making risky phone calls etc.

My old boss was a bigamist. He got caught out when one of his wives arranged a secret 40th birthday party for him and invited everyone from his work Most of them were expecting the other wife and his face was an absolute picture when he was rumbled