To feel a bit upset and disregarded?

[Lex234]

I am probably just being grumpy-I am tired, stressed and work is busy. I am a nurse manager in social care, the past few weeks have been tough. Not as hard as it is for NHS staff but have been in tears a few times. It is hard for different reasons, different stresses etc.

None of my family have contacted me or text me to ask if I am ok. I dont really have a big family. My dad passed away a few years ago, NC with mother. No siblings. Tbh I am usually the one who makes contact. Tonight I thought I would ring and check if they were OK, needed anything etc. They spent the entire time talking about how hard it was for x,y and z to be working from home, cancelling holidays, missing trips etc, not once asked if I was OK or how things were going. How hard it was for poor L who is in a semi front line job. To be honest I feel fucking broken after the past couple of days and this feels like a bit of a slap in the face.

AIBU? I feel like not bothering anymore.

(So as not to drip feed there is clearly a history here but its too long and boring to go into)

I can fully understand what you mean. Yanbu at all.
You are appreciated
💐

That sucks.

For what it's worth, I thank you for what you're doing XX

YANBU! There are so many roles and circumstances that are overlooked during this. Whilst it's a real shame about people losing holidays, it doesn't compare to the reality of working through this scary time. I think everyone's struggling to adapt and stressed- but yes, they should've phoned you first and definitely should have asked how you are coping.

I know it's not the same as them asking....but are you ok? xxx

Thank you for your lovely messages, you are very kind. I know that the work we do is appreciated by lots of people, I just feel so cast off by my family! I think this is probably the wake up call-if I mattered to them, they would ask, right?

Ems, I am feeling better for a bit of sleep thank you for asking, it is just a bit lonely and stressful at the moment, I work with a good team and we are doing our best, I just hope our best is good enough, we don't want to let people down

Focus on you and ignore the family

You are appreciated, thank you. I work in a food shop and 3/4 colleagues are off work with what seem like excuses and they keep messaging "missing my family and let me know you are are keeping safe at work" i've had to stop reading them as I am getting very resentful. Sorrygoing off on a rant but it's a he only thing keeping me sane. Best wishes to you.

Thank you lazyarse, I honestly think food shop workers have one of the hardest jobs at the moment, I take my hat off to you x

YANBU.

The NHS do an amazing job but there are so many other essential workers like yourself who I think people sometimes forget.

Those in social care/nursing homes/community carers. Police/fire service/military. Deliver drivers e.g. my dad who drives HGVs delivering food and other goods to supermarkets plus drivers who deliver to smaller stores or who are still delivering to homes/businesses who need things. Shop workers, warehouse workers, bin collectors and many more.

I am a teacher (secondary) so classed as a key worker. I don't for one minute think that my job is any harder than any of the above (it's certainly easier than some!) but I still get people saying 'oh it must be nice to be at home'. Well, it sort of is but I am still setting work and desperately trying to continue to deliver the specifications to Y10/12 so that they are prepared for next year. Plus fathoming what will need to be done with other year groups when we get back.

Then there are many people juggling working from home with children and those who have lost/may lose their jobs

It's a worrying, difficult time for everyone and people should be looking out for eachother.

Pumpkin it must be a nightmare trying to coordinate education to syllabus in a completely different format and way to before. Teachers amaze me anyway, such patience! I am still feeling miffed, but had a marginally better day and I am going to treat myself to a glass of wine tonight for my efforts :)

Lex allow me
enjoy it, and thank you for your hard work

Cheers pussycatinboots join me for a virtual glass

Thank you Lex it is hard but most customers are understanding so that helps. I think most of us are finding life very stressful at the moment, we just have to carry on and hope for the best.

I thought I would do a little experiment with this and see if anyone made contact with me first (I always phone/text first).Almost 2 weeks have passed. Nothing. I guess this is when you find out who you matter to!

Covid has one good feature. Shows you who gives a shit. Imagine all the time we will save when all this is over...

Absolutely Crystal! I have also been surprised by the people who have been in touch, people I have worked with in the past and old school friends. Makes you sit up and take note of those who care

I agree, covid sorts out the wheat from the chaff.
No one seems to mention hospital cleaners, porters etc and they also are very important.
I am so sorry about your relatives attitude but you are doing a very important job and you should be proud of yourself

Roots I absolutely agree, cleaners(most are also whizzes in IPC guidelines!), porters, catering, waste collectors...there are so many who arent acknowledged as much but who are just as important. I love my job and although it is hard I wouldn't change it, even now. I am lucky, I have my own little family and maybe this has showed me really it is all I need