not to want little boys to pee on my front lawn

[harpsichordcarrier]

now I say in advance I don't have brothers or sons so maybe I am just not versed in the ways of boys...
but my friend's ds (4.5) peed on my front lawn yesterday and I was not amused.
he was very proud of it and kept mentioning it
his mother (lovely friend of mine) just laughed.
it is a very small lawn by the way, I have a teeny garden only ten feet square maybe and it was rght in the middle where my dd's play and the rabbit eats fgs....

AIBU?

Not at all unreasonable, but I wouldn't stress too much unless it becomes a regular thing!

Maybe. I mean, how often does your friend's ds pee on your lawn? Why didn't he go inside & use the loo, though?

no it isn't very nice at all, was it an accident or is he just used to going wherever he fancies outdoors? ds is only 2 but even in extremis we'd go to a bush or tree or something.

on the bright side the rabbit probably wees on it too!

it is the first time but I wonder if I should knock it on the head but I didn't want to look like I was being petty. I just know he will do it all the time now, argh.
he just thought it was funny - he kept repeating it "I weed on your garden! I weed on your garden!"
I think it's probably a tertitorial thing isn't it...

oh I don't care about up against a tree or behind a bush if you are caught short, thta's fine.
but ten feet away from two lovely clean toilets = not fine

id nt mind if he was younger

yes fine if potty training or whatever
but he's at school

My ds is the same age so I can just imagine it! He's probably quite proud that he can point percy... no sitting down for him! Next time you see him unzip, tell him you'd rather he use your loo.

the chanting sounds remarkably like my 4 yr old.. about anything and everything that he thinks is rude/funny/attention grabbing

If all the neighbourhood boys were coming around and peeing on your lawn then I would be very but since this is a one off and can potentially be nipped in the bud (a little pun there for ya: bud. garden. I think I'm funny anyway ) then I wouldn't get too stressed. Show him your toilet next time and tell him he doesn't need to ask to use it. Mum will get the message then.

oh no

YANBU. The mum shouldn't have encouraged it by laughing. The more it's talked about the more other friends will want to do it, so if I were you I'd not make a big deal of it. Just hope for some rain soon

YANBU, but I'd rather a little boy peed on my front lawn than been so desperate for the toilet that he didn't make it and ended up peeing on my floor inside the house.

yanbu! It is your garden. Would only be acceptable if it was an accident or if toilet/potty was out of order!

YABU to expect that little 4YO boys will not want to pee on your lawn given opportunity (I have had to drill it into my son for hours why it is OK to pee outside when we are walking in the woods and miles from a loo but not OK in back garden, and he still doesn't quite get it)

YWNBU if your post had instead directed exparation at the mother for not pulling him up on this... she is the one to be annoyed with.

exasperation

YANBU

I would not want nor expect a child to wee on my garden - certainly not on purpose. I have a perfectly good toilet they can go to instead!

Mum didn't help by laighing at it. OK, if funny laugh away from child - but don't encourage him!

Wouldn't bother me in the slightist but a steaming turd would and thats only a step away

lol

I think it's fairly normal boy behaviour to try this. Both of my sons have downed trousers and peeded on our lawn. However, the difference is that I told them both firmly that it was not acceptable and not to do it again. I am that the mother just laughed. If it happens again, I'd try a stern 'we don't pee on gardens here, we use the toilet' which will give both the boy and the mother the message that it is not acceptable.

The worst example of this type of behaviour I saw was at a toddler group picnic held in the grounds of the church hall. One little girl needed a wee so the mum let her do it on the grass right next to where we were eating! It would have taken her five minutes to go indoors to the toilet.