Why is my NHS employed SIL 'working from home'?

[emptyfridge]

Really confused as to why the government are taking on thousands of volunteers to support the NHS and we are constantly being told of the immense pressure staff are under when my perfectly capable SIL is working from home apparently catching up on paperwork?

[simplekindoflife]

Can’t believe someone suggested I shop for her. FFS!

The sheer audacity!! I'll bet you'd have her shopping for you like a shot though, OP!

[T0tallyFuckedUpFamily]

She’s good you what she feels she is safe telling you. If you think we doesn’t know that you’re harbouring feelings of resentment and jealousy towards her, then you’re kidding yourself. One thing this virus shows is who really is decent and who isn’t.

[emptyfridge]

We’re all doing a full days work @Ginfilledcats, why is it easier for me to get to the shops and look after my dc?

[doodleygirl]

This virus is bringing out the best in so many people and the worst in others.

Why dont you choose the first category OP?

[peoplepleaser1]

@BraveLittleDragon she was not asked to take annual leave, it's left them in a pickle by all accounts but she thinks this is not her problem. She had 3 weeks of annual leave left to take before next year so she took it because she's trying to avoid the peak.

[Ninkanink]

Crosspost...

If you like her and generally get on then with her then maybe just be happy for her that her situation is a bit more ideal just now than yours or that of people you don’t know.

If this is actually stress, worry and fear talking then maybe tackle those feelings rather than focusing on your SIL.

[CookPassBabtridge]

This is clearly just because you don't like her. If you did you would think as an NHS worker she would deserve all the things she's getting.

[Exoffice]

this is about you disliking your Sil...

0/10 for effort!

[koshkatt]

You don't like your SIL much do you OP? How about you just mind your own business?

[mynameiswah]

she is taking advantage of her nhs key workers status

She is a key worker! You seem to think she is different from the other key workers some how? Why?

[x2boys]

My sons learning disabilities nurse isn't doing face to face visits like the rest of the team ,she said she might have to work from home ,I'm guessing because although her job is very important it's not absolutely essential that ,she helps us with toilet training etc right now but yes it will depend on your sils role .

[emptyfridge]

@simplekindoflife no I wouldn’t let her shop for me
I have the utmost respect for the NHS frontline workers and everyone supporting them so I will be clapping for them tonight.

[Windinmyhair]

Paperwork could be anything but seeing clinical patients - this could be case outcomes, patient referrals, assessing people on a waiting list and prioritising based on need given the current pandemic.

Quite frankly - what she is able to do or not is none of your business.

She may have just said paperwork as a summary. You may not see or know the depths of what she is doing all day. But regardless, the paperwork doesn't stop because there is a pandemic. She will be being used in the best way by the NHS given ALL AVAILABLE INFORMATION.


Which you don't have.

I get that you are annoyed with your situation. But that isn't going to improve by getting annoyed that others have a different set up to you. It won't suddenly magic a keyworker place up for your children, nor a shopping hour for you.

Let it go.

[Ginfilledcats]

@emptyfridge evidently your line of business isn't as vital I would assume. Just because your SIL "is doing paper work" you have no idea what she's doing. It could be vital.
We have a heavily pregnant doctor at home going through every single patient cancelled or rearranged to make sure they are rebooked at a safe time, that their meds are right etc. Which is technically a paper based exercise. But vital.
I'm working from home as a senior manager in the nhs and ensuring there are enough medics allocated, that our contingency plans are working,'or creating new ones every time there is a new problem. I can't just swan off to to the shops or watch my kids whilst doing that.

[Ginfilledcats]

You do not have respect for the NHS staff, certainly not your SIL

[koshkatt]

I have the utmost respect for the NHS frontline workers and everyone supporting them so I will be clapping for them tonight

God the blatant hypocrisy!

[missyB1]

And you cannot possibly say that she has no underlying health issue, you can only say none that you know of! My dh has a serious underlying condition that he has never told any of his family about. They would be very shocked if they knew.

[motherheroic]

Why don't you ask her instead of asking us and expecting us to pile on her.

[Winterwoollies]

@emptyfridge does she work in a clinical role? Or is she office-based/admin? I’m confused. I can’t wade through your spite to find out.

Either way, the NHS is a huge and complicated organisation that requires a lot of admin. My midwife has been working from home at times, too, to catch up on her paperwork. Do you think she doesn’t deserve to have childcare or an hour in the supermarket, too?

I can’t really see the problem here, only that you seem to hate your SIL and wanted everyone to join you on bashing her to make you feel better. I mean, I’m just guessing...

[emptyfridge]

My DH is also a key worker but we are not using school because I am working from home so following governments advice only to send them if completely necessary.

[koshkatt]

Your choice. Stop getting involved in someone else's business FGS.

[caffeinefix]

I'm a HV and working from home as I'm pregnant. Do you have a problem with me?

You sound so bitter. Too much time on your hands.

[BertiesLanding]

I think it's time you dealt with your sibling rivalry, OP.

[Shinyletsbebadguys]

See this is where this clapping thing irritates me. You are going out to clap hypocritically when you have just been horrible without all the information? That's fantastic I hope you feel really smug and kind when you stand their clapping when you have made this post.

Just to clarify one issue, have you any idea how hard it is to WFH with DC? You say it like it's simple and easy , now not for a second do I underestimate how fortunate I am to WFH to keep an income but easy it isn't!! We could classify ourselves as keyworkers but chose not to as we felt it wasnt morally right and although its bloody hard we do it. However dont bandy it about like it's a walk on the park, I am now on a mandated break for 15 minutes because it was realised we are sat in front of meetings kn the laptop from 8 am to 6 PM without a break, I'm not swannjng around painting my nails, I dash to sort the kids out whilst logging off one place and setting up the log in for the next.

I'm strategically reducing my audio on my laptop so I can reset the next piece of homework and the only reason I am not using this break to see to DC now is because the DC are eating their dinner.

Dont family proclaim that she can "just" wfh with DC, depending on ages its bloody brutal, and I am still very grateful I am in this situation.

If you dont like her fine, just admit it, people can be asses and still work for the NHS but don't try to claim some moral high ground.

[Camopetals]

Christ, it's not a race to the bottom OP.