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To let my 8yo ds sleep in my bed?

54 replies

blubberball · 01/04/2020 20:19

He sleeps in his own bed on school nights or if my bf stays over. But he has taken to sleeping in my bed recently, and as there's no school and no bf, I don't mind.

Does any one else allow their dcs to do this? Or should I be stricter about it?

OP posts:
marvellousnightforamooncup · 01/04/2020 21:23

It's a regular thing in our house. Sometimes I sleep on the floor in the kids'room.

TacosTuesday · 01/04/2020 21:24

My 7yo has started being really anxious at bedtime, letting him go to sleep in my bed and then transferring which works for us. He's currently next to me wide awake playing which is not ideal but I'm being patient as I understand why. I don't think the clocks changing has helped. Send wine 😬

BlueGheko · 01/04/2020 21:25

I don't understand why anyone would have to ask this question. If you're happy with it that's all that matters. He's your child. Would you honestly tell him no on a strangers say so?

Mitzdob · 01/04/2020 21:26

My DD10 has been sneaking in a lot lately - she's never done this before. But the world has she knew it has been whipped out from under her feet so I'm just going along with it. Whatever works for you.

starsparkle08 · 01/04/2020 21:27

My 8 year old son also SEN autism adhd and learning difficulties comes into my bed every night . I’m single so doesn’t cause any difficulties and he sleeps really badly so I gladly take any sleep I can get

Phoenix76 · 01/04/2020 21:28

It's fine. Like a pp said, any comfort you can provide is a good thing.

Imfinallyhappy1 · 01/04/2020 21:29

My ds who is 9 and has no additional needs love co sleeping and dh moves him when he comes to bed (dh and I go to bed hours apart as I cannot stay up till 2am). It's lovely falling asleep with your baby in your arms no matter how old.

My dd who has send will sometimes cosleep but prefers her own bed.

If I could I'd cosleep forever I love it.

Campervan69 · 01/04/2020 21:34

MarginalGain that's lovely.

ToTheDoctors · 01/04/2020 21:35

Yes, I have been letting my ds (7 years) sleep with me in my bed

RoyalBankOfFuckThis · 01/04/2020 21:36

My 8 year old slept in between me and DH last night.

His little world is upside down at the moment.

I don't see the harm.

GaraMedouar · 01/04/2020 21:38

My DD age 8 sleeps in my bed about 1 night in 2. She often starts in her own bed then comes in with me at some point in the night too - that’s fine.

SimonJT · 01/04/2020 21:39

He’s only a baby, let him in.

My son gets in my bed every night at 3-4am, yes it’s a bit cramped with me, him, boyfriend and the cat. But one day he’ll be a grumpy teenager who won’t want to be in the same room as me, never mind the same bed!

Pascha · 01/04/2020 21:42

It's rare for Ds1 (9) not to have migrated into our bed by morning. Last night Ds2 (7) wet his bed so he changed and came in with us at 4am so we were four in the bed. I don't really mind, they are only little once.

MarginalGain · 01/04/2020 21:42

@Campervan69- the dog too. It's actually too much chaos, but yes it's nice that they still are happy to jump in my bed.

QueenBlueberries · 01/04/2020 21:44

I think it's fine, but it might be more difficult for him to back to his bed when this is over. Another idea would be to make him a special bed/den on the floor in your room for him to sleep on?

Original poster
blubberball · 01/04/2020 21:44

Tbh, I wanted to see if we were normal, and if other parents were in the same boat as us.

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Besom · 01/04/2020 21:45

Dd went through a phase around ghst age of wanting to sleep in my bed. I didnt mind.She grew out of it again. Things are a bit strange at the moment to say the least so he probably will benefit from the comfort.

MrsKCastle · 01/04/2020 21:47

My 8 year old DD has always had a tendency to crawl in with DH and I. She always starts the night in her own bed, but is there with us when we wake in the morning. She has been even more.clingy since school closed, it has obviously unsettled her more than it shows in the daytime.

Yellredder · 01/04/2020 21:48

My 8 year old daughter sleeps in with me - has done for the past couple of years. Makes her feel safe.

thedailymailisbogroll · 01/04/2020 21:49

Let him in- it sounds like he needs the reassurance from him mum.
It's not unusual for both my kids plus their special cuddly toys to somehow find their way into my bed by the morning. Nothing better than sleepy snuggles with a child on either side.

Cheesepleas3 · 01/04/2020 21:51

Very good point PP have made regarding him possibly feeling rejected when BF is around

Dontrainonmyparade · 01/04/2020 21:51

My 15 y/o last came in my bed aged 10 when he was poorly. I remember, because it was a “last”. Your “lasts” will come. Enjoy the snuggles.

BlueGheko · 01/04/2020 21:52

Fair enough OP but really I would hope it's normal to offer your child comfort when they need it. My ds11 sleeps in with me once a week, sometimes more, sometimes less. No idea if that's normal but it's our normal. Smile

asmuchuseas · 01/04/2020 21:57

I miss snuggles with my DS. He slept in my bed after his dad left. It stopped when my new DP moved in. But I really miss it he's almost 12 and would jump at the chance now if he could

MrsKoala · 01/04/2020 22:06

My 7, 5 and 3 year old have always slept with me since birth. The 7 year old boy is the size of a 10 year old tho and does sleep kung fu so it can be uncomfortable. But I do love it when we are all snuggled together now.

We all go to bed at the same time about 10.30pm and then get up about 9ish.

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