Son's birthday

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Hi

Its our son's birthday today. Husband took the day off especially for him. He is self employed and he only takes 1 day off a week. (He is a key worker so is going into work still)
Father-in-law hasnt got a care in the world, he owns a car garage, and still goes in everyday, despite us begging him not to.

Anyways, he called DH up and asked him to give him a hand with the cars in the garage till 8pm. DS's bedtime is 6.30pm. He always does this, the one day off DH takes, his dad calls him to the garage. So the kids dont get to see him.

AIBU to think DH is out of line to go today out of all days?

We spent the morning at the GP with our 10 week old baby, and left DS with DH's sister. By the time we came back, he had fallen asleep after crying for 30 mins because we just left him. I feel so bad for DS.

This is staying at home at its best

Very funny OP

So your husband is with his dad / your FIL (not part of your household).

You leave your DS with his sister / your SIL (also not part of your household).

What part of isolation and mixing households do you not understand?

I wouldn’t worry about your sons birthday I’d be worrying about COVID 19 and how you are going against government advice and potentially spreading the virus.

Bangs head against wall......

I understand its lockdown and its not like we can go out, but we can still spend quality time with our son. Wish DH could say no to his dad for once

Erm.. we all live TOGETHER

Sorry i didnt mention that. We live with our in-laws, and their daughter. @NorthernSpirit so we are in one household. We arent that stupid.

How mean of your not so DH :(

So where did you go that you had to leave your son with your husband's sister?

Backtracking like mad! Do you live with the GPs you went to see for the morning as well?

So you left your son in one room of the house and ignored him on his birthday while your baby spent time with his grandparents? Or....?

GP = general practitioner I assume? though I didn't think they were doing much in the way of in person appointments...

I read that as she took the baby to the GP - as in the doctors? So they left the DS at home (that they all live in) to take the baby to the doctor - is that right OP?

Wow maybe i havent been clear. I had an appt for my 10 week old at the GP's. I left our son with husbands sister who lives with us, while we attended the appt? Is it that hard lol

@Pootles34 thank you!!! Finally lol

Yanbu. It's a bit shit of both dh and fil. Surely if dh has taken the day off to spend with his son on his birthday, that is what he should do. However, this is a problem you need to have a conversation with your h about. I would also be having a conversation with the in laws.
Time to save up and move out to your own space maybe?

@irregularegular, if you phone your GP you get a triage call back and if deemed necessary, you get an alloted time, but only one person (besides carer/parent) can attend.

OP, he should have prioritised your DS's Birthday, especially during this time.

How old is he? Will he understand that you had no choice once he is less upset?

YANBU. Today is DS’ 6th birthday. He is already limited by lockdown - the very least he can expect is a nice as possible family day.

I'm confused. Si you all beg FIL to not go to the garage, but your DH is also going to the garage? On your son's birthday? That's definitely shitty

Sorry - not sure where I got 6th from! 😂 How old is DS?

That is that you didn't have the choice not to take him, not your DH.

Does he feel obliged to your FIL because you live with him?

He has come home now, think he realised it was wrong! -_- thanks for letting me vent ! Haha x