Disagreeing with name choices

[anxioussmum]

Discussing possible names for a newborn and being told that they (my mother) are a straight up 'no'.. am I being overly sensitive to find this rude?
It's as though she feels she's entitled and what she says, goes.
It's making me uncomfortable, I'm already pretty down about the distance so i'd rather not feel any animosity right now.

Just dont tell her your choices! Announce name once baby is born problem solved.

Stop discussing names with anyone aside from your partner! All it causes is headaches and grief. Everyone will find out the name when the baby is born, and what they think about the name is irrelevant. Stop making a rod for your own back!

Your mother doesn't get to veto your name choices. She had her chance to name a baby when you were born. This is your turn now.

Unless of course you are suggesting Balonz Englebert. In which case she has a point.

Agree, it's not something you need to discuss with her as it's none of her business what you call your children.

Never discuss baby names with anyone else.
That's a lesson you learn from MN pretty early on.
It's not her child. It's yours. Your decision and yours alone (well maybe with a bit of input from the DF if he is around).
You announce the name when you have decided and baby is here.
Stop discussing it with her.
She can let you know what names she likes and you can totally ignore her suggestions!
Congratulations OP.

You're being unreasonable discussing name choices. Discussing makes people think you want their opinion, why talk about it if you don't want to hear their views?
Don't discuss names and once decided (and baby is born) introduce baby as X.
Fait accompli.

Why are you discussing it with your mum? More to the point why are you listening to her?

First rule: dint discuss names. Have the baby and then tell people what you've chosen. Far easier.

We announced the name after the birth,not many people dare comment on newborn's name once its here.

None of her business so l would not start the conversation or debate with her

Don’t tell her the name until it’s on the birth certificate

Don't discuss names with anyone other than your partner before baby is born. People are less likely to be rude after baby is born and named than before.

If they are rude after baby is born ignore. My paternal grandmother phoned Dad to moan about the Welsh name my Welsh mother gave me. He told her to fuck off and it was never mentioned again

I had this with my partners sister and eldest daughter. I actually had no problem with people saying they didn't like any of the names, I thought it was funny - you can't please everyone. But his eldest would say 'you aren't calling her that" as if it was her choice and the conversation was over. Then his sister would wade in, facetime to ask if we had any name ideas (we had moved onto a brand new name) then shake her head and say "oh no, I don't think eldest daughter likes that."

It annoyed me so much, as if I was being disregarded before the baby was even born!

So I got very consistent saying over and over "we will be making the final decision our child's name but we welcome all suggestions"

This drives me mad! My sister is a teacher and made comments about a load of names on the shortlist for my first child as she had taught someone with name x, y or z who was naughty/rude/chavvy/bitchy etc. My dad pulled a face at one of the names I mentioned. My baby's dad didn't want me to use one name I liked because his mum's best friend (honorary auntie) had been out with someone with that name and "the whole family would hate it!"

I've not told anyone my shortlist this time around. Everyone has an opinion about everything. As PPs are saying, it's your choice. Wait and announce it once you've decided.

We haven't told anyone our name choices because if we shared the one we loved most and any of the family sneered at it it would ruin it for me. And frankly it's none of their bloody business, they simply don't get a say.

So we've chosen between us and kept it to ourselves and we will announce it with a picture of the baby. No one will dare say anything then...

Never tell anyone the names until the baby is here.

If asked give out increasingly far fetched & ridiculous names; we used to do this and see how long it would take for them to protest at the names

YABU. You shouldn’t be discussing your name choices with anyone but your partner.

When baby is born, inform her of the name, job done.

If you don’t want anyone’s opinions then don’t discuss it. It’s simple really.

As everyone else has said, don’t discuss names with anyone except your partner. Saves a lot of hassle.

Don't discuss it if it upsets you, and when ideas are offered say something none committal.
My DHs gran went as far as naming our first two for us. For almost 9 months my bump was referred to as Mark Simon and the other as Christopher Giles. (Not her real choices) we named them what we liked and just moved on. She was sad but we just didn't pander.

Yikes! Okay guys, noted. 😂
Thank you all for the feedback

You'll get good advice here anxioussmum!

Does she realise that it's not her decision?

We didn't discuss names with anyone & when I'd had our first & we told mum the name.

She said that she didn't like it

Told her we were telling her the name not asking her opinion!

You’ve got to be firm.
Ask your mother who named her children. I’m sure it wasn’t your grandmother.
Both my parents, who are separated, didn’t like my dds name and said they would call her by her second name.
I told them that her name is xxxx and that’s what you will call her or just don’t visit.