Do I repel men?

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My confidence is good and so is my self esteem but I am beginning to wonder if I turn off men with my personality .
Lately And perhaps conincidentally, I've been described by close friends as tough and strong. These were positive comments in context.However I am
Also known not to tolerate shit from people and call out bullshit.This does not make me Ms popular but it never bothered me before.

I have been left delicate by my husband leaving me for another woman and leaving me almost solely with our three kids.
Long story but he is a man child in the extreme that never matured emotionally and expected the mothering he got as a child, from me. I had no time for that anyway but certainly as a full time worker , parenting my three single handedly coupled with a lazy husband, he was not on the top of my priority list.
I am a kind, compassionate and positive person . I have had plenty of loss in my life and have had to be independent from a young age. I am coping well I think, as a single parent . It's easier with him not being around.
I have plenty of faults of course and work at them as I need to.

But if I have a reputation as a woman who is inflexible or rigid in her need to be treated as an equal I wonder if that's a turn off. A male friend recently said to me , in jest, that he would never get on the wrong side of me and that hurt me.

Thanks for reading and I'd appreciate your opinion and experiences .

No being firm is not a turn off. But men will remember how you made them feel, if you come across as too harsh they will get fed up.

Ok thanks for the feedback and your opinion.
Maybe I can be too harsh

I think it’s too difficult to say from just one post. But the right one will like you for your personality and it’s too hard to keep up an act and pretending to be someone who you’re not. Perhaps just try to tone it down a little in the early stages when you meet someone.

Ok thanks. I really don't mean to come across as hard or tough. I am
Actually a warm person but I think that I need to convey that more. Thanks

You repel the ones that are no good for you. I'd class that as a positive 😁.

Thanks for your kind words.
I am aware I Can be a bit black and white to
My own detriment.
I hope To get back into the dating scene again in the next couple of months and I'd hate if my own bad experiences of being treated shabbily projected onto new opportunities.

You have bounderies and clear expectations, I got that from your post, I admire that.
As @yes put it, you repel the ones that are no good, and that's positive.

All men are different so you won't be repellent to the male species, no one is. Just don't get back into the dating scene until you are ready.

Dont settle for less than you deserve. You're better off on you're own than to try to change yourself to suit someone else. Unless you're effing and effing at potential dates then maybe tone that down.
Sounds like you're well rid of the useless ex.

Thanks. I am never rude but if I felt that a man was pushing boundaries or being leery or inappropriate I shut him down swiftly.
This has often resulted in me being seen as difficult or a hard ass.
I was walked all over by my exh and foolishly did everythingto try to keep a calm happy home and bybdoing so allowed my husbandto treat me as his inferior. I feel strongly that i will never allow that again in any relationship , for the relationships sake .