WIBU?

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We were together for about 8 months, things were serious and we were thinking about moving in together after his work commitments in a different city ended

I have been working from home for the last 2 weeks and I have been self-isolating without any symptoms. He has stopped work only on Tuesday and came to mine for the lockdown. Now, every single day since this has happened all I could hear was how bored he was, how he can't do anything outdoorsy (I live in a flat) and tried to go out with any excuse he could: for a walk, food shopping that wasn't essential. Another thing that grated on me was him acting like a guest and apart for cooking there was not much he did ( no wonder he got bored!)

On Friday night I found out something that really upset me , he wasn't the one doing it but he helped one of his mates do it. He could not understand why I was upset as he hadn't done anything personally.

Anyways everything came to an end on Saturday when he was acting like nothing has happened and told me I was being unreasonable. He said he thought we needed a break and that he will go to give us space. that's when I said to him we are done. If he can go and leave me in these circumstances instead of having a conversation and sorting things out then we're better off apart.

The issue is, for him to get back to his place he needed to take a train. I haven't spoken to him since yesterday morning and I won't , but I can't stop feeling guilty for telling him to go in the current situation.

I don't want to reach out, but part of me is worried about him. I really thought we were good together and I feel that my anxiety given the current climate hasn't helped.

WIBU?

Making him leave is the smartest thing you've ever done because he is not the man for you. Make sure he stays gone and move on with your life.

That's what I thought

I need to get a grip and get on with other things

Sounds like a good move. Well done!

Sounds sensible to me

Sending him home may have just saved your life.
You're worried about him on a train journey, but listen, he wasn't worried enough about you to stop himself going out and possibly infecting you was he. I think this has shown you exactly the kind of person he is. And for that, you should be grateful.
I know it's painful to break up, and your hopes and dreams of a life together are hard to let go of. But better now than later, when you really really do need him to step up and you have kids and he lets you down.

Good move!!!

@GrannySlippers you've hit the nail on the head. That's exactly what I thought about yesterday when I've told him we're done.
Future me and our hypothetical children being let down by him and his selfishness. He always went out for his once a day exercise, but it just bothered me that he did not think anything about spending more than an hour walking in the park and then popping in the shop on his way back.
I have been out once in 2 weeks because I'm so bloody scared and tbh, my immune system is shit and I catch all the bugs even when there's no life threatening virus in the picture.
I thought I'll be more upset but I'm actually not, I was more worried about being too harsh, thank you lovely people for putting my mind at ease