Silver Lining

[pancake123]

My youngest son has had serious problems with drugs & mental health for last 3 years - he’s nearly 17. Obviously at the moment he is restricted to staying at home. He last ate a meal with us last Christmas, & even then he walked off between the main meal & pudding, didn’t come back for hours. And that was the first meal he’d shared with us in months.
Today, he ate breakfast with us. Played PS4 with his brother. Ate an evening meal. Played a board game.
He is being isolated from his druggy friends. Has been forced to go clean. I’ve got a hope of getting my boy back. AIBU to be glad that I have the opportunity, over this period of lockdown, of getting my boy back?

Panny YANBU. Best wishes and here's a non MNetty, socially distanced [hug].

I really hope it works out, OP.

That sounds amazing, I think there should be positive stories out of this, I'm pleased for you xxx

YANBU. Not even a little bit.

Oh I hope it works op. Wishing you luck

Thanks. I’m a single mum of 4. I’ve tried to be patient, and waited for him to come back to me, but as we all know, friends are more of an influence than we parents are! But with the friends out of the picture, he is being more influenced by me, his brothers & sister

Oh OP that's so lovely! The best thing I've read all day. Well done. I'd like to bet he's secretly relieved too. Nothing but very good wishes to you and your family.

You must have had such a stressful few years. It sounds like you're finally getting your boy back. Brilliant news.

@pancake123 best of luck to you - I really hope your lost boy stays found.

OMG OP I am so happy for you. My son 19yrs old is staying at his friends house, he has said he has moved out only since last week. We have had years of problems with him drugs, alcohol, idiotic friends etc. Today whilst out shopping I took fresh clothes and food round to him. I was so ashamed as I drove up to the house, music blaring from it and out he waltzes with a drink in hand takes said food and drink from car then just calls see ya laters and thanks. I'm a key worker in a hospital not once did he say hope it goes ok Mum or be careful next week.
I feel like I've reached the end of my tether with him but he is my son and I love him and I'm just so confused why he is doing this. He is acting like covid 19 doesn't exist. So sorry just needed to vent but so happy for you that you are getting your boy back. I pray he stays with you.

That's great OP. For once I hope the lockdown goes on a bit longer.

I’m a key worker, so putting myself at risk. I think it has helped him put things into perspective & realise what’s important. He’s been telling me for years that he wants to kill him self , that life isn’t worth living. But wouldn’t accept that it was the drugs making him feel like that, that it was a vicious cycle. We seem to be breaking the cycle.

This is lovely 🙂

Best wishes for your son.
Hang in there.

Yanbu

The dogs collar - they think they’re invincible, & nothing will happen. I kept on telling him I loved him, even when he was being vile. Told him that the only person in the whole universe who loved him unconditionally was the one who’d given birth to him. It’s so incredibly hard. But what else can you do but wait it out until they’re old enough to appreciate what you’re trying to do? I think CV has speeded up the awareness for my boy - hope your boy gets there soon too.

pancake123 Thank you, I hope so too.