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To think I can't do this ?

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Sapphiresunrise · 28/03/2020 15:24

Please, don't tell me 'suck it up', 'get over it' etc. Because everyone is different.
My Mum is showing symptoms, luckily she's neither elderly nor high risk, but it's giving me constant anxiety.
I'm showing mild symptoms too.
I don't see this lockdown being lifted after 3 weeks..
I've had poor mental health in the past, and before this I was in such a good place where I never wanted to live so badly.
Now, this has happened just when I had gotten myself into a really good state of mind.
This is no life, and I see people on here casually saying, "Oh we'll be in lockdown for months/schools will be closed until maybe next year."
I also have rubbish luck with men, been cheated on a couple of times and in a DV relationship.
I finally met someone really nice and now I don't even know when I can see him again.
I know that i'm lucky to have food, internet and a roof over my head. But I feel depressed already, I don't see how humans can be expected to live like this for months and months on end.
I am fully aware why we are doing it, and I am fully compliant, but I feel very depressed and wonder what the point is.
Looking at Italy and Spain, i'm terrified we are going the same way.
Please have some compassion.

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NuffSaidSam · 28/03/2020 15:37

You might want to get this moved from AIBU, to a more sympathetic board.

You don't need to suck it up though. You need to do it, as you are. But you don't need to pretend it isn't fucking awful. It is for some people. Some people are suffering for this cause much more than others and we all need to recognise that.

It will pass though. We will get through this. It won't be forever.

Are you looking after yourself with food/exercise? Staying connected with people as much as possible? Taking some time for yourself away from children etc. All those little things are important.

It will get better.

Wetfloortiles · 28/03/2020 15:41

I feel exactly the same. I'm so sorry I don't have any answers xxx

likeafishneedsabike · 28/03/2020 15:55

It’s a steaming pile of shit. And it’s more shit for some people in their circumstances than others. Being on lockdown is not the same for everyone.

Sapphiresunrise · 28/03/2020 15:56

Thank you, I will ask to get it moved.
I know there are several other viruses and allergies around which aren't magically going to wait for Covid-19 to end, but it's still a worry.
A friend's Dad is currently on a ventilator, only 61 years old and one health condition that is very well-controlled. He was hardly at death's door before this.
I think I will stop reading on here because there are so many people giving out false information as if they are experts, "Oh this won't be over until X month."
You don't know, so stop.
83% have voted me unreasonable so nice to know it's all going swimmingly for you guys.

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Leekandpotatosoup · 28/03/2020 16:07

I know everyone's different so this might not help you and sorry if it doesnt. You're in an adjustment period. You've also got symptoms so you're worried and not feeling well. It's normal to feel how you do.

Try to remind yourself everyday it's only temporary. It might seem like forever now but it isn't. I have a couple of people close to me who live like this permanently. They're disabled and housebound. It does affect mental health and takes time to adjust but you can deal with this, I promise. It feels so strange and stressful at first but there's so much you can do inside.

First, keep in touch with your family, friends, new boyfriend. Video calls, messaging. Lots of partners spend time apart for various reasons like armed forces serving abroad. Absence can make the heart grow fonder. You can use this time apart getting to know each other.

Are there any hobbies or course or studies you're interested in? Have a look at online courses or how to guides. Try out some new cooking or baking, gardening, growing plants inside.

You will get through this. It's going to be difficult and scary and horrible at times but it will end. The lockdown means it won't be as awful as it could've been. More people will be protected, the NHS will cope better. That's a positive. Amongst all the bad stuff happening, good things are too. People helping each other, the community volunteers.

I'm finding it hard too so I understand. I have an underlying condition and I'm trying to stay in. I'm getting anxious but I find keeping myself occupied with hobbies and distractions helps.

Sapphiresunrise · 28/03/2020 16:11

@leekandpotatosoup thank you 💐 xx

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