Lockdown and estranged husband angry he can't come in

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AIBU.. My estranged husband has another partner which my children found out about and things have been very stressful but since the lockdown he was requested to isolate with the ow until its over. Today he turned up and tried to come in. Raging as my daughters boyfriend is here isolating with us and he's furious he can't come in his own house. He's currently doing something in the garden which is quite large. Am I being unreasonable in thinking he should stay away and respect the lockdown or is he entitled to come here if he doesn't come in the house.? For context it's an emotionally abusive relationship and he's a vile person...

Keep him locked outside. His choice to isolate elsewhere. He doesn't get to come into your house. Government rules, not yours to make. I hope life has improved for you without him.

Keep the doors locked and dont allow him in. He cant switch between houses he needs to stay where he was.

Don't let him in. I'm a bit inclined to say call the police if he won't go, but I may be over-reacting.

Tell him you will call the police if he doesn't go away.

He is acting like a jerk!

Good luck and don't feel pressured into letting him in.

YANBU

He no longer lives in your household, so he should NOT be visiting at all

If you don't want him in the garden and / or or if he gets aggressive, then call the police

It’s all well saying keep the doors locked etc, but at some point someone in the house will need to go out. What then? He will try to confront them or barge in perhaps?

I would speak to the police.

Yanbu. Keep him locked out. The temperature is due to drop tonight, that might give him motivation to bugger off. If he won't leave call the police. It's harassment full stop.

Does he have legal rights to see the children??

The children are all 16 or older. They are very stressed by him but that's not new. He's not come in the house other than when he first arrived but is outside in an outbuilding.

Perhaps she has thrown him out 🤣

I would call the police your locked down that means no fucking visits

Don’t let him in

Call the police if you feel threatened

Is everything ok, OP?
Did you manage to get rid of him?
Hoping all is well.

He stayed outside and left about 6. We all stayed inside. I could write a book about this nightmare. It's so hard to condense it.

Probably means he's off to try and do the same to her.

Hope she calls the Police. As you should do if he comes back.

He is breaking the lockdown rules. Don't let him in if he comes back - apart from being vile and abusive, he could infect you.

Sorry I can't see it in your post, how long has he been living elsewhere?

Hope he's not on the tenancy/mortgage.

It’s to be zero or -1 degrees outside. Perhaps he saw that online and changed his plans to kip on the shed.

He went to stay at ow on Tuesday. No mortgage. We have only asked him to stay away during lockdown. He has taken this to mean he's not allowed in his own house. It's his doing. He has been having an affair for years.

OP please call 101 and report in case of escalation. He's also broken the rules in regard to lock down.

Seems like all is not rosy in the OW's garden! I would be tempted to call her and tell her that she should tell him to go home because his constant begging to come home is getting on your nerves.

generally speaking you can't lock someone out of or change the locks of the marital home unless you have a non molestation order
he would appear to be breaking rules about only being with members of his own household