Hello, I’m a long time lurker but first time poster. I would appreciate your opinion so I can process my feelings.
My dad is being shielded, he received a text from NHS saying he is to isolate for 12 weeks. His work said he can WFH. He’s an office worker and can perform all his duties from home. He lives alone.
Yesterday evening I used my 1 exercise per day to walk to his house and drop a bag of bits he needed on his doorstep. We chatted through his window and he started complaining. His office has now closed and all staff are WFH, except the maintenance department who are doing a rota system and 1 person is going in each day, the rest of the maintenance department are at home on full pay until it’s their turn on the rota. My dad thinks this is unfair and thinks he should only be working 1 day a week if the maintenance people are only working 1 day a week.
This comment really annoyed me. My DH (his SIL!!) is a paramedic and is working on the frontline, why does dad think he deserves to be given time off to relax at home while DH goes on the frontline? I know 2 people who have been made redundant (dad knows about these as I told him earlier in the week), they would love to be able to WFH on full pay. I told him he needs to get some perceptive and that he's lucky to be shielded and have a job.
He started ranting at me about how he’s entitled to his opinion and he doesn't need to justify himself. He said I’m being disrespectful and that the younger generation like me are all as bad as each other. He then walked away from the window.
For context, my dad often has views on things that I disagree with, but I just bite my tongue. I couldn't bite my tongue this time though. The fact that he doubled down on his opinion when I called him out makes it worse for me.
I don’t want to support my dad while he’s shielded anymore. Next week I am due to pick up a prescription for him which will no doubt be a slow and horrid experience. I don’t want to use my only outing a day walking along streets to his house and back to give him 5 minutes of window company when I could go for a country walk in the fields where I live.
AIBU to limit the support I give him? ... or does this make me a bad person?