To think that more women will suffer because of the lockdown?

[Amazemae]

More pressure seems to be on women with additional housework, childcare and chores and continuing to try and work at home. Already started hearing of women losing weight because men have to be fed. Those in abusive relationships will only suffer further. Those households where women do the majority of the housework now have to do even more because most family members are at home especially those where the men choose to opt out of family life.

Of course not all women.

I fear the women and children in abusive households.
There's no work, pubs or football to "distract" their abusers.

Yanbu
I really fear for anyone trapped indoors with an abusive man at this time.

I also feel for anyone trapped inside with an abusive woman or any gendered partner that is abusive

Three replies in for whataboutthemenz. Sad thing is that that's probably not even a record...

Erm... why is it wrong to acknowledge abuse goes both ways? Obviously it happens FAR MORE to women than to men but it still happens the other way around.

Of course its sad that anyone is trapped with an abusive partner, but the ones i Really fear for are the children who are at the mercy of them, the kids whoes only proper meal of the day is at school.

I don't doubt it goes both ways. This thread title just seemed to be focusing on women, so it just seemed a bit off that one of the first comments was, to my eye, not totally on topic (discussing the effects of the lockdown on women)

One of my pet hates is that seemingly every time women want to discuss their problems, we have to explicitly state how awful the situation is for every man as well, in a way that is often not replicated.

Can you imagine men replying right at the very start of a thread on say, male suicide increasing during the lockdown, solely to comment that women do it too and should be considered in their discussion?

Rant over, don't want to derail the thread ✌🏻

I really feel for those that this situation is making homelives harder for.

However, I'm pleased to say that it's going the other way. We had a 65:35 household admin split because my husband worked long hours for roughly the same salary, and I'd take the hit to even up our free time.

Now we're a clear 50:50. I hope this is the case for others too.

You are not being unreasonable to presume it’s going to happen/is happening already.

It’s awful that in this day and age many women are still expected to look after men, children and the home, and possibly work/work from home too.
Because those are the important things. The woman and her feelings on the subject are unimportant.

I think that it’s really important to note that a third of domestic abusers are women and it’s the men who are being abused, about four million of them per annum

I’d really like to see people recognise that, as much as two thirds are women, yes, millions of men are also being abused and they also are stuck at home with their abusers, as are their kids, stuck with their abusive mother.

The millions of men that are being abused in their homes, don’t deny that. 30 men are killed every year by their partners where 2 women every week are murdered by their partners in the UK.

So we can safely say it is a problem that affects women much more.

I have a real concern for women and children who have abuse men living in the house. Especially now the kids aren't in school and they're just trapped with their abuser.

But I don't have much sympathy for women that married dick heads (not abusers just lazy knobs) and chose to stay with them without getting them in line. Sort your man out or accept that the child care, cleaning and man care are all on you.

Yes it is interesting that it seems to be a far riskier illness for men but that women will be paying a lot of the price of the restrictions. I hope there is nothing sinister in the decision making there.

30 men are killed every year by their partners

Most likey male partners

Of course this is a terrible situation for women in domestic abuse situations This situation is shit for everyone though and I can't see the point in making a competition over who will suffer most. Is it kids, the self employed, the elderly who live alone, health workers livinv apart fro their families. Grading suffering between genders, age groups etc is of no help to anyone

My line of work deals directly with this, the increase already in serious domestic incidents and those also involving children is horrific. I'm not looking forward to going back to work after two weeks of quarantine

"Millions of men are being abused". Are you sure?

I don't dispute some men suffer abuse but "Millions" in a nation of roughly 30m men?

And the overwhelming majority of victims are women and children

I fear the women and children in abusive households.
There's no work, pubs or football to "distract" their abusers.

This.

It plays on my mind a lot actually. It must be awful for some people.

@Pulpfiction1 even if male partners, low compared to women murdered

I work in the Nhs and when we attend the safeguarding study days etc the professionals taking the session acknowledge that men suffer abuse but the majority of the content concentrates on the abuse of women and children because they make up the vast majority of the victims.

There are reasons why schools were able to invite back a range of vulnerable children beyond EHCPs and key workers; it is a social consequence that has been identified from the start. It is being downplayed in the media to avoid undue attention on individuals that could be worked out at a local level.
The offer being accepted is a different issue though.

Ah that makes sense

There’s a thread about a single mum who’s local shop won’t allow children into the store. She’s been indoors with a young ds for 10 days and needs some shopping today. Lots of posters (presumably other mums) very happy that shops are banning children.