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Namechange5468 · 28/03/2020 10:39

So the legislation was updated on Thursday. We can't leave our homes except for a reasonable excuse which includes, "to move house where reasonably necessary".

I live in a very small flat with one other housemate. She's not following the guidelines and is still spending most of her time outside the flat, including staying at her partners and with family. My stress is exacerbated because she doesn't have great hygiene generally, and hasn't improved since the pandemic started. She NEVER washes her hands when coming home. There are 10 flats in the building and she is putting everyone at risk.

I've tried to speaking to her, she says she's "aware of the situation" and "will make a decision soon" (re potentially moving in with partner). She took great offence at me reminding her of the guidelines and asking her to wash her hands when she comes in, and said of course she does it. I've spoken to landlord , letting agency and police via 101 who were v sympathetic but said there's nothing they can do.

She's now starting coughing and is making no effort to minimise/do it hygienically- it's not muffled as it would be if you were coughing into your elbow/tissue/hand. I'm 99% sure she's faking it to stress me out, as she only coughs when she's outside my room, it sounds forced, and she does this protracted groan afterwards (if it turns out she's genuinely ill I will of course help her!).

I'm laughing because it's so ridiculous and otherwise I would have a breakdown! I want to move out, can this any way be considered a reasonable excuse to move?

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bucketofgin · 28/03/2020 10:53

It would be totally reasonable for you to move. But frankly she should be the one to go!

Namechange5468 · 28/03/2020 11:02

@bucketofgin

She's the laziest person I've ever met. I don't think she would bother moving out unless she was actually evicted- she has family money (enough that means she doesn't need to work), so can easily carry on paying rent.

I need to research this more, but I'm hoping if I can adequately socially distance while doing viewings, and hire one person to help me move furniture, it should be possible to do without putting anyone else at risk? I just want to get the fuck out of here!

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Namechange5468 · 28/03/2020 11:03

The flat is unfurnished and she hasn't moved anything in, so it would mean leaving her in a very bare apartment though

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TexanBlueNeck · 28/03/2020 11:08

would mean leaving her in a very bare apartment though

How is that your problem?

She's a functioning adult, her living setup isn't your problem to solve for her.

Ponoka7 · 28/03/2020 11:14

A, lot of people are looking for work and you might be able to get a father/son combo to move you. But most removal men are still ok with working.

She's putting you at risk, so have no quarms about leaving her with no furniture.

Would you tell her first?

Namechange5468 · 28/03/2020 11:34

One thing I do not understand at all is that she has these long protracted phone conversations about how bad CV is, how great NHS health heros are etc etc. I CANNOT COPE WITH THE HYPOCRISY!! God knows how many chains of infections she's potentially contributed to.

@TexanBlueNeck I debate that she's a functioning adult, but yeah she can sort it out, I've been asking her to buy her own stuff for more than a year.

@Ponoka7 that's a good point, I can have a look on my local fb page as it would be good to give business to people who are struggling! I think I would have to plan it without telling her, we've had disagreements about the furniture before (she thinks half should belong to her, I've said no as I bought it and moved it in, 2 years prior to her moving in).

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