AIBU to expect a response from friend about flowers I sent her?

[Apolloanddaphne]

I sent a good friend some flowers from Bloom and Wild as she had some bad news during the week. I thought they might cheer her up. I had a message from the company to say they were delivered yesterday but no message from my friend to acknowledge them. This is not like her at all.

I don't know whether to message her and check she got them or not? She has a little porch at her front door and it is possible the postman popped them there and she hasn't noticed them.

WWYD?

Just call her to see if she is ok over the weekend x

I would message for the reason that they could indeed still be sat by front door. Just say hiya hope you're well. Just checking the flowers I sent have arrived safely?

YABU. She's had bad news, the last thing she is probably thinking about is ensuring she says thank you quickly.

If you send flowers, do so to make the recipient feel better, not yourself.

I could message her today but we chatted by message yesterday so I know how she is feeling. It would be odd to ask her that again today. I either have to ask her directly if she got the flowers or leave it. I think I will message her later and ask. I wouldn't like her not to have seen them. Or for her DH to have taken them in and not told her. That is possible too.

@KatherineJaneway it is so not like her to not message about something like that immediately. I am not doing it for the thanks. That's why i am hesitant.

My friend put a post on Fb this week saying she’s received flowers from bloom and wild but no card inside so she couldn’t thank the sender. Perhaps the same thing has happened and she doesn’t know who they are from?

I did include a card but maybe they didn't put it in. I guess that is possible. If that happened she wouldn't know who to thank. She has a lot of friends so wouldn't know who they came from.

Why can't you just text and ask if she received them?

You could text and say 'hope the flowers cheered you up'.

@Apolloanddaphne

I see. Maybe the news knocked her sideways and she's gone to ground. Maybe just send a text asking how she is and offering an ear if she needs to talk?

Actually she just messaged me a moment ago to say thanks so all good!

Good news

Glad she’s responded.

I sent some through Bloom and Wild for the first time about 10 days ago (a plant arrangement). The recipient was delighted and sends me photos of the arrangement’s progress- it’s lovely- I’m very impressed.

YABVU. She’s had bad news.

I have a friend who does this. Sends flowers and expects a photo of them within an hour of delivery, starts texting to ask me.

Tbh I’d rather she didn’t send them, it’s usually when I’ve got some sort of crisis, and she loads me with a sense of obligation on top.

I wasn't seeking out thanks. I just wanted to make sure she had got them and they weren't wilting in her front porch. I know my friend well and it's not like her not to let me know she has got something. She has messaged me now to say she got them so all is well.