To think I’m nit mot being unreasonable regarding sleeping arrangements?.....

[Potkettlexx]

DP and I been together nearly 6 years.

2 children who both at different points would wake up through the night. Children see their dad often (DP is not sad)

4 bed house so we have a spare bedroom next to youngest DC room. So I started sleeping in there so when DC woke up I could quickly settle him before he woke up my other DC and DP who was up early did work.

Then my older DC went through a phase of waking up so I stayed in the spare room so I could quickly settle them too. I think she liked the fact that if she needed me she could come in and wouldn’t disturb DP as he was up early.

Kids are much better now and don’t really wake up but I’m so used to sleeping on my own that I do t like sharing a bed anymore 😳 DP snores and I’m a light sleeper. He gets cold in bed and I over heat and I just find myself not getting much sleep.

When DC are with their dad I often go and sleep in DC bed (a double) adults night e and cool, no noise or someone wriggling around!

I am a generally tired person anyway. I work and have to get up at 6.30 most days so I just find it better to sleep without him 😬

He’s not very happy and said it’s like friends. I disagree as we’re very affectionate in every other way, it’s just I need my sheep. He says it’s not healthy and what do other couples do?!

I agree with him in part but feel he’s going OTT as he knows how much I love him. It’s not my fault I’m a light sleeper and he snores etc....

AIBU?

Personally I would be really upset if my boyfriend didn’t want to share a bed with me.

You can’t have on happy and one miserable person, you need to find a solution so you can both meet in the middle.

Tell him to sort his snoring and let you have the room the temperature you want and you'll give up your spare bed. Compromise on both sides. Rather than just sacrifice on your part.

Separate beds is way more common than people realise.

35 years married here and we sleep in the same bed on and off. Dh was the most horrendous snorer, tried all sorts even lost weight with no luck, now he's semi retired he's stopped and I've started. I have a summer duvet year round and am still warm, he has two winter duvets all year. We get on great, just different sleepers. Seperate beds works.