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To find going to a supermarket an absolute ordeal

144 replies

Jellybean27 · 27/03/2020 22:13

God. Despite the social distancing, the few in few out, additional cleaning etc etc.
I found myself having a cry in the car afterwards. (Obviously whilst rubbing copious amounts of hand gel into my hands and avoiding touching my face until I get could get home and scrub fuck out of them for way more than 20 seconds)

My first time out of the house in days and it was seriously overwhelming.

Really need to sort myself out 🙄

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YourWinter · 28/03/2020 01:08

BTW I use my own hand sanitiser between customers, even if I haven't touched their cards I've touched the groceries they've placed in their trolley and then unloaded onto the belt. I break to wash my hands as often as possible, but it's not as often as I'd like. I could wear gloves but, apart from the awfulness of them going into landfill, they're not going to be any cleaner than my thoroughly sanitised hands. All the trolley and basket handles, and the checkout areas, are being cleaned with detergent, but we can't clean every product on the shelves!

Enough4me · 28/03/2020 01:09

I started to SI with symptoms 8 days ago, have DC so in for 14 days by the time I can get to a shop. I was thinking that everyone else will be used to the changes by the time I can get out, but the sound of nightmare shopping makes me want to stay in.

I have food as bought a few extra tins and pasta since January and have vitamins and frozen veg. Just have to ration loo roll!

Leflic · 28/03/2020 01:37

A bit like this ( I know the Handmaids and Martha’s are in twos but they aren’t allowed to go near anyone else).
All the shelves are a bit empty and it’s quiet.

To find going to a supermarket an absolute ordeal
CatAndHisKit · 28/03/2020 01:58

You've got hand gel?!

this! where do people get hand sanitiser?
Shops are mainly back to normal with stock, thank God, but no gel anywhere! not sure whether you can trust the quality buying online (ebay), I've bought some to try out but still not arrived (10days!)

CatAndHisKit · 28/03/2020 02:04

Jellybean exactly same here - M&S was orderly nice and staff friendly here, but the whole sudden change in people being awkward and all the rules is surreal. I MUCH prefer this to the previous chaos, I must say. You can go in quickly, now can get what you need (mostly) and be out fast.
I think posters who had bad experience need to go later in the afternoon. def no p[roblem with distancing and stocj stll good (same in our large-ish Sainb today). The only queu outside was into a small Tesco, not sure why as it's never well stocked, maybe people wanted to stay outside in good weather.

greytminds · 28/03/2020 02:21

Presumably the people who have hand gel now are the ones who cleared the shelves of it when all this began?!

I went to our local Waitrose yesterday and it was a pleasant experience! Staff were so cheery, social distancing was firmly but politely enforced throughout and only 28 people allowed in the store at any one time. Shelves were well stocked with pretty much everything except crisps (oddly) and flour (still managed to get some plain though).
They were giving out free milk too.

I won’t be joining a free-for-all in any of the other bigger supermarkets any time soon!

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eaglejulesk · 28/03/2020 03:22

I went this morning. Stood in a line in the car park for half an hour, but people chatted and the time passed quickly. Not as many people as usual inside (hooray), they didn't actually have what I went in for, but I took something else instead. The staff didn't seem stressed, full of smiles.

It is the way it is, just try to go with the flow. It really isn't that bad

DippyAvocado · 28/03/2020 07:28

I’m reminded of the Handmaids Tale. Tesco is now a bit likes shopping at Loaves and Fishes.

I thought exactly the same!

youcantellthem · 28/03/2020 07:37

I agree. I went to a Tesco yesterday and found the whole experience really eery. People had fear in their eyes.

I have had anxiety for a long time so it's not a feeling that's too unfamiliar for me but I do wonder how we will all cope whenever restrictions are lifted. I for one couldn't wait to get home and feel "safe" and wonder if this is going to drive a nation of home-bodies?

Hellokittymania · 28/03/2020 08:04

@Acertainsupermarket I commented on a post you made in the other thread you were on, please read it. I think it will be an eye-opener for you and explain a lot of things. Please don’t be so harsh if you see people with disabilities or elderly going shopping… We have no choice. I’m going to have to go out eventually as well. By the way, a food parcel handed out by HUK to me yesterday contained milk, bread, one can of soup, one pack of biscuits, tea bags, eggs which I’m allergic to, prunes, and sardines. Please don’t judge before you know all of the facts. It’s not easy on anybody. A lot of elderly who you might find annoying don’t have anyone to help them. I’m not elderly, but I am I’m totally on my own and believe me, this week has reduced me to tears. So please, before you charge can you please try and understand the situation from our perspective too. I’m visually impaired by the way, there are no delivery slots online. The supermarkets that say they have vulnerable priority slots… That was changed on Wednesday so you know I have to go to a government website, register and you have to have an online underlying health condition… So if you’re visually impaired, that doesn’t cut it…

I haven’t been to the supermarket since before the lockdown… So I have no idea what it’s going to be like… I also don’t know how I’m going to social distance with a staff member who needs to take me around the shop… That one is going to be very very tricky… But I know the hell now of trying to get a food package… Even the Mp in my area was made aware of the situation I’m in, and I was referred to the community website… Again, things sound so easy, until you try to do them…

catsareme14 · 28/03/2020 08:19

Tesco were brilliant . I was however so uneasy that I couldn't remember what I'd gone for .

MandalaYogaTapestry · 28/03/2020 08:52

Went to Aldi yesterday and never again! An orderly queue waiting to enter and a total mayhem inside! People coming in pairs and going all direction. Noone bothers at all with social distancing in the aisles. Rubbing shoulders and just coming next to you to grab the same item from the shelf while you are still there, not bothering to wait. That included some shop staff, by the way. And then - orderly queues again to the till. A total farce. I am going to our local M&S next time and paying their overinflated prices.

CandiceSucksCandy · 28/03/2020 09:22

I am never going to tescos again. It's the little local co op all the way from now on.
Our tescos had hardly anything in it, and I was in by half 10 in the morning. It was so depressing and the security on the door made me want to say 'under his eye'
I listened to the best of Kylie all the way round. I never go anywhere now without earphones in, music makes it better.

ACertainSupermarket · 28/03/2020 09:54

@04Hellokittymania
I quite understand people feel alone and that must be scary, and perhaps I do sound judgemental but the more people go out - and I see this every day - the longer it will last and the harder it will hit. Have you tried to find a community coronavirus group? My worry is the people who look frail but seem determined to go out and be independent. There is help out there I'm sure. People are falling over themselves to help each other where I live, anyway, which is lovely but still lots out there who look at risk. The shops are well stocked and organised now so no need for any more of that awful panic buying!

katseyes7 · 28/03/2020 10:28

@YourWinter

This. 100%. l'm a checkout operator, and every word you've said is true.
One of my young colleagues was called a "fucking Paki" recently for following store guidelines and refusing to let a man have two multipacks of water.
l 'confiscated' one from a man who then paid for his shopping, walked past our 'contraband' (items that have been taken from customers who had over the limit items) trolley, who then proceeded to take the (unpaid for) multipack of water and put it in his own trolley. l had to go and confront him, and take it from him. When l said "l'm sorry, l told you, you're only allowed one" he got right in my face and shouted "WHY?!"

l'm ex police. l'm also over 60 and l can stand up for myself. Not everyone can. One of my colleagues, who is a lovely girl, but quite quiet and shy, texted me last week and said she was scared to go into work in case she was "bullied" (by customers).

We're working in a potentially dangerous environment, no matter how many measures our employers put in place. We've got gloves, wipes and antibac spray, checkouts are cleaned regularly, and we're having screens put up. But some people seem totally oblivious to their own, or anyone else's, safety. Not observing social distancing (glued to their phones, not looking where they're going, bumping into people) - last night l had to ask a father and grown up son to move back from the 'line' at the checkout which is the safe line from the customer in front. We shouldn't need to have to do this.

And yes, it's lovely when someone is appreciative of you actually being there, and says so. l've had NHS staff thank me for doing my job, which seems incongruous to me - it should be the other way round, and l say that. They're the ones really at the sharp end, as it were. As you say, we've had weeks of exposure to people and whatever they bring with them. ls it really too much to ask for a bit of common sense and personal responsibility?

EvilPea · 28/03/2020 10:33

I really think our supermarkets need more love at the moment.
The lorry drivers, driving over hours in un checked lorries, the shelf stackers, the cleaners, the security and the checkout operator.

Thank you all from the bottom of my heart for keeping us fed.

MaintainTheMolehill · 28/03/2020 11:03

Our tesco is fine, I go late so that is quiet. Everyone smiles at each other, everyone stays as far apart as they can. I can never get what i need though, no toilet roll or kitchen roll, no soap, no pasta, no mince, no chicken and very little vegetables. I get what i can and when I'm done i go outside and sit on a bench and cry. Then i start walking home, by the time I'm home I'm ready to put a face on for the kids while i wipe down all the shopping.

These days will serve as a lesson not to take the small things for granted when one day this is over.

livingthegoodlife · 28/03/2020 11:13

I went to my local greengrocers. Only two people in shop. No queue. Plenty of fruit, dried pulses, pasta (!!) And tinned good. And milk & butter. I felt like a champion coming home! Saw the huge queue for Tesco and felt grateful I didn't have to get involved.

Miriel · 28/03/2020 11:15

I went shopping yesterday for the first time in a week. I thought it would be fine as the supermarket was relatively quiet with no queue outside.

People wouldn't keep their distance! Several times I had someone stand right beside me when I was taking something from a shelf - or come up directly behind me, which felt even worse and made me jump.

As a teenager I had severe social anxiety and was afraid to do everyday things because of it. I haven't felt this anxious over something so ordinary since then. I'd forgotten how it felt.

purplecorkheart · 28/03/2020 11:34

I am lucky, there is a small family owned supermarket in my town so I can avoid the chains. It is quiet and well stocked.

MilkTrayLimeBarrel · 28/03/2020 12:30

I was only thinking this morning that after this, hopefully, is over, I do not intend to go back to supermarket shopping (apart from M&S for special things which you can't buy anywhere else). I am using Milk and More, who I have been with for several years, to deliver bread and the bread they are delivering is nicer than any supermarket offering. I am using local companies who have switched from supplying caterers to private individuals for fruit and veg and tinned goods, a local meat counter for meat, eggs and cheese, and who are now delivering, and a well-known wine merchant for wine! The service is better and in most cases the quality is good too. The supermarkets will have to up their game in the future, although I appreciate that they are providing a needed service to the community at the moment.

Jellybean27 · 28/03/2020 14:15

I considered this, but then you can’t hear the sneaky non social distancers sneak up on you @CandiceSucksCandy!! 😬

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Jellybean27 · 28/03/2020 14:22

@MaintainTheMolehill This too. Exactly why I had my cry in the car before I went home, sucking it up so the kids don't see me crumble.

Today, it felt worth it though. Funny how happy a fruit pastille ice lolly and some chocolate buttons can make them so happy! ❤️

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