Anyone else not feel like talking to people atm ?

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My group of friends want to do big video chats, but i'm really not in the mood at the moment. I know it's important to keep some sort of normality, but I just want to wait for this to be over.
I was texting a guy and he's been asking me every day if i've 'got anything exciting planned'..
Between walking, reading, TV and eating i'm not really sure what he's expecting and don't see the point of him constantly asking because there is nothing new to say.
I think i'm just not in the mood at the moment, i'd rather just be alone and not have to put a face on. Anyone else ?

I don't really enjoy video chatting either tbh..can't see the appeal. Did a birthday video chat last weekend and it was half an hour of people just talking over each other. Some friends want to do one this evening...I honestly CBA. Just want to get the kids to bed, order a curry and drink wine.

Yeah that's it.. One to one is different but it really is just people talking over each other. Another friend constantly sending me videos from YouTube and Instagram posts, now shes off work nothing else to do so constant messages.
I know i'm sounding mean i'm just not in the mood and I know we shouldn't be living in fear, but don't feel like laughing and joking.
I can get very anxious and i've had chest pain since the lockdown started.

Same here with the video chats. I'm just not in the mood either - and I know the same two people will just talk about themselves in our group one so frankly CBA.

Do what you need to do OP..if that involves just keeping to yourself then so be it.

I've had to mute notifications on my daughters class WA group as it was starting to get ridiculous...the competitive home schooling and general neurosis was just too much. I am working in a school being kept open for key workers children so really didn't need the nonsense.

I’m a week overdue to give birth and I cannot tell you how stressful all the “is the baby here yet!!” texts are. So I’ve basically switched off my phone and mentally telling everyone to fuck off. I get ya

I seem to have a different (secret) attitude to the lockdown at the moment. Not one I broadcast.

It's hard to explain but - although i'm sorry for the people ill/dying, loosing businesses and income and i'd never ever have wished for this because it's horrific - on a personal level it's worked out well for me.

I've had a bloody awful couple of years with one fucking disaster after another. I lost a parent and the other one got cancer. Big family bust up on dh's side which caused havoc. Dh's business went bust (nothing to do with CV). We've had relationship issues (now resolved but left their mark) and a very stressful house move. I had a situation in work that caused me a massive massive amount of upset (false allegation of stealing...all cleared up and apology given but it left a very bitter taste).

I've been feeling for months like I just need a fucking break from my work, my extended family. Like I needed the world to stop so I could get off for a while. My minds been everywhere and I was getting to the point where I was considering going off work with stress or just running away to a BnB on my own for a week.

The last two weeks have been bliss. Working from home, the kids and dh here, enjoying the sun. I 'unfortunately' can't see my very high maintenance extended family or dh's PITA family. I don't have to look at the fucking faces in work of the people who failed to support me during a tough time and made my life hell.

Other than the illness-risk and generally feeling sorry for people affected in general, I haven't felt so calm and collected for two years. I have no desire at all for bloody video meet ups with people and no hankering to go out (other than a stroll or bike ride for exercise). I don't want to see anyone but dh and the dc.

I'm enjoying the space, i'm enjoying the peace and I feel this is the break I desperately needed before my brain fucking exploded or I had a breakdown from stress and build up tension and upset at various people.

(sorry, I do realise how this may sound to lots who are struggling).

I hate video calls. Despise them to be honest. I work in Healthcare and lots of my friends are video calling me at all hours day and night to they claim offer support. However their calls are full of talk about CV latest statistics etc looking for reassurance. I find it is taking a toll on my mental health. I am using Mumsnet a lot more over the last few weeks. I find it has been a great support.

I could have written this post! I just can't be bothered. The amount of messages on Facebook messenger is stupid too. I get people are isolating and want to chat but I just want to watch Netflix in bed and hope they close my workplace down that is running on half the usual amount of staff

Glad to hear other people are the same ! I find Mumsnet useful too. I'm tired of friends thinking they are medical experts, and the friend who doesn't wait for me to reply but sends message after message in the same day 🙄

I'm enjoying the peace. Been through so much trauma in the past decade, friends who endlessly wanted coffee meets drove me insane. Too many texts, requests, pressure, hospital appointments galore...
It's all blissfully quiet.
If I could access food easily, it would be even better.
Do worry about my parents though...

I have a right face on at the moment. I'm still working and when I'm out and about, I'm that stressed and bad tempered I can't talk to anyone. I'm different with my clients though, they keep me going. But I can't be bothered talking to friends and family at the moment, I'm just miserable. Got rid of Facebook too.

I can’t even be bothered to speak to anyone in my house, so fed up it seems such an effort
The work group chat is doing my head in too, same old clique, might
Mute it
God I’m grumpy

I can’t even be bothered to speak to anyone in my house, so fed up it seems such an effort

Yup. I've got symptoms, cough and shortness of breath but I felt like this even before. Don't want to talk to anyone. I've been in bed nearly all day. Pets have had cuddles but animals are better than people 😊 people can piss off.

I have been sent so many messages telling me that I’ve got to do Joe Wicks’ workout, paint a rainbow for the window, join endless corona Facebook groups and take part in awkward video chats. Whilst I admire people’s initiative, it’s just not me and it feels like this thing is taking over my life enough as it is. I want to make the most of having time at home and just doing normal things - playing in the garden, playing Lego, doing my ironing. I don’t mean to trivialise this thing at all, I take it very seriously but my way of coping is just to keep a little bubble of vague normality for as long as possible and hope to God that as many people as possible will be ok.

I'm not into video calling either. By the time I've got DC to bed it's the last thing I want to do.

Rainbowb I agree. I've got a nice little routine going with the kids. It helps. Today was one of their birthdays so I've had loads of video chats, the kids hate them and immediately make loads of noise, run of with the phone, hit each other. We tried to do a virtual cake and candles and ended up having a huge row with dp about video chat etiquette. I hate social media and the way it just seems to demand your time and attention. Doing things with the kids and even little doodles or knitting and things like that just make me so much happier.

Me. There are about 5 group chats on WA that I've muted and my friends are having video chats most nights, but I'm just not up to it, I've gone completely inwards. External stimuli is just making me more anxious at the moment.

I've started doing online yoga and meditation the last few days which I'm finding helpful, but I'm mostly hibernating and hiding. I just don't have the energy or inclination to interact right now.

I never feel like talking to anyone, but definitely more so at the moment. I have lots of unanswered messages, but I just don't have the mental energy to reply to any of them.

Never liked them and now I have to do them for work and feel obliged socially

I'm with you OP. I've got a lot on my mind, trying to juggle work and the DDs squabbling all day and my patience is completely maxed out. Just want to chill in the evening with a glass of wine and watch some crap TV and get some sleep in, before the kids get up at 5.30am and I've got to start the whole process again. I don't want to keep having the same conversation with people every evening about how terrible things are and how are we all coping. Just give me some space to process things rather than expect me to want to talk the whole bloody time.

But then I'm quite introverted anyway and quite happy not to see people for weeks at a time even when there isn't a pandemic!

I'm so glad to have found this thread. I am an introvert and am quite happy holes up at home with just my husband, but I am finding the constant bombardment exhausting.

I'm lucky enough to be able to work from home but I am overwhelmed by MS Teams, Skype, emails, WhatsApp groups all going off all day. When I'm at work I'm in an office by myself and life is relatively peaceful. This, on the other hand is constant interaction.

Then, in the evenings, friends want to FaceTime, WhatsApp, talk on the phone and call across to each other from the balconies where I live. It's too much for me!

When I'm stressed I tend to deal with things by retreating into myself until I have processed what's going on and I'm ready to face the world. My husband gets this and is leaving me alone to get on with it, but nobody else will. I am happy to do anything I can to help anyone on a practical level but I can't do chit-chat and this level of socialising.

I feel really bad for ignoring calls and messages but I just can't do it at the moment.

I've found my people!!! I have muted WhatsApp for the time being as sick of being sent memes about the virus that people are crying with laughter over. I'm also not in a mum's WhatsApp group because I can't be arsed with the competitive home schooling. And don't get me started on Facebook, deleted that ages ago not can only imagine the shit being posted and the competitive isolation shit. Fuck that.