to carry on working?

[Seasiderabbit]

AIBU to carry on working full-time from home while my OH, who is a stay at home dad, looks after both kids?

OH says it's too difficult to look after both at home, so I should stop working temporarily and we should split the childcare. OH doesn't have any health problems - he is currently fit and well.

Context: I have worked from home full-time for 10 years and my salary is 90% of our income. OH usually looks after DS who is 18 months for 3 days a week. DS is at nursery the other 2 days so OH can work one day and have one day off. DD is usually at school. Now the schools and nurseries are closed, OH now has both kids to look after.

I am off work when I have to be. For example, OH works one day a week and he's an essential worker (a care worker) so obviously I am looking after both kids that day and not working myself. I find it difficult at times too, but also a joy. We chose to have kids, it's our responsbility to look after them.

AIBU to tell OH that yes, I understand it's tough, but these are difficult times, we all have to make sacrifices and he just has to get on with it?

I’d also tell him to crack on, you need your money, he’s doing fuck all else.

I'm waiting on this being a reverse or something trying to prove a point about gender stereotypes on MN. Especially after the post earlier about WFH dads not pulling their weight.

I haven't read that post and I don't want to prove a point about gender stereotypes. That point proves itself many times over IRL.

I'd like to know if I'm being unreasonable to carry on working while my OH who is a SAHD looks after 2 kids.

YANBU but I can see that 4 days of solo care would be more difficult than 1. Are there any compromises to be had - like can you do some work in the evening when DCs have gone to bed whilst he cleans and tidies up for example and then take a longer lunch break? I definitely don't think you should stop working though.

Thanks @rookiemere, yes, I think compromise is the answer, I do understand it's harder to look after both solo for 4 days. I've agreed to look after them both until 10am, Midday until 2pm and then from 5pm until 6pm. So at least I get 5 hours to work every day. TBH I'm already working in the evening because I'm self employed too and earn a bit extra to make ends meet.