Grandparents rights ?

[Whitegrapeandblackberry]

Do grandparents have a right? Do they have a say in how you bring up your kids? And do they have a right to have your child alone?

@Whitegrapeandblackberry

She will see DD in his time but where do I stand about her not having DD alone in his time? Xx

Unless you've got robust enough evidence to take to court about why she shouldn't be alone with her, you don't stand anywhere. Have the spoken to your STBXH about your concerns?

No she's not abusive at all, just malipitive and sneaky, doesn't have a clue about simple things like using the right car seat and DD has quite a few allergies that she just doesn't understand, she's been quite disrespectful to me and also has mocked some of the decisions I have made for my DD ( which I have done for dd safety !! )
Ex has even said how petty she is being with her comments yet won't say anything to her, he would rather lose his little family

Unless she presents a risk, you can’t prevent him from giving up his time to her. You can ask him to agree to it, but will he stick to it? Is DD young enough to report back?

SnakePlant - but how can she stop her ex leaving DD with his DM? I don't think she can dictate what he does with his time.

On his time it will be his decision who he leaves her with. And if he has no backbone like your say, it be will his mother.

Os he a very hands on father now?

Is the wrong car seat illegal? Or just not as safe as it could be?

Are your DDs allergic reactions life threatening?

They got a dog who is known to growl and go for anyone, when DD was little I made it clear I didn't want the dog near DD yet in she waltzed with the dog in tow into my home, ex said nothing just let her come in, DD was only a few months old, I felt really un easy about it but she had to prove a point that she does what she wants! Xx

Yes he's a good dad just not good at having a back bone, I had to tell her several times the car seat she wanted to use for dd wasn't suitable as DD was too young and small for it as for her allergies I'm not sure how serious they are we are awaiting further tests but obviously on hold due to Corona xx

You control what happens on your time.

Unless you have solid proof that he is an incompetent parent or that she is a danger then he is afford the same right during his time.

You need to just block it all out. Block her and say you never want to hear from her again.
Only ever speak/ communicate with your Ex and never her.

It’s hugely, hugely important to know what sort of man you’re breeding with, before you (in general) choose to have unprotected sex, a man who has nutter relatives who he feels compelled to allow them to dictate his life, a man who fails to put his chosen family first and allows toxic behaviours from relatives to carry on, etc.
Boyfriends, ex lovers, ex lovers parents, mothers, have no rights. The kid has rights, parents have responsibilities, legally. Once the kid has contact with its other parent, you have no say in what goes on, obviously. It’s important to know basics like this before producing yet another consumer with a boyfriend,

@Electrical

Cool story. All a bit after the horse has bolted though. Any advice? 🙄

Electrical ,
I think your post is “Spot On” and straight to the Point .
However, sometimes life isn’t that straight forward.
We may think we have found our Prince/Princess but on many occasions they are not what they seem.

Thankyou for your replies, i think me and ex mil had different thoughts on what it would be like, she turned really nasty very quickly after I had DD, she became jealous and quite petty with comments, before I had DD me and ex mil had the most lovely relationship so it's was really out of the blue xx

It’s hugely, hugely important to know what sort of man you’re breeding with, before you (in general) choose to have unprotected sex

There you, OP, problem solved. Simply shove DD back into womb, wait nine mo ths for her to un-grow, and then hand that single sperm back to your ex. Job done.

If you think ex-MIL poses a danger to your child's safety and you don't want her having unsupervised access during DD's time with her dad then your options are talk to your ex and reach an agreement, go to mediation, or go to court.

She says comments because she knows it'll wind me up and to get a reaction I think xx

But if you're not there and have no contact with her, she won't be able to wind you up.
If ex starts a conversation with "mum says/thinks..." just say you're only interested in what he says and coparenting together well.