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Kids playing in front garden, opinions?

76 replies

bbyj2019 · 26/03/2020 14:54

Moved into new house front and back are a jungle, front will be the least time consuming to sort in time for summer (no chance of both being child friendly by summer) what’s the social etiquette of kids playing on the front, swimming pools etc on a front? Am I crazy to think it could work

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bbyj2019 · 26/03/2020 14:55

AIBU: in using my front garden for ‘summer outdoor family time’, is it something others frown on?

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clareOclareO · 26/03/2020 14:58

There's nothing technically wrong with it though it will raise some eyebrows from the neighbours, and first impressions count. It really depends what sort of relationship you want with them going forward.

If one garden could be "child friendly" and the other not, maybe start with the back. People tend to forgive an untidy front garden more readily than the sound of children playing - the garden is quieter, after all.

Matildatoldsuchdreadfullies · 26/03/2020 14:59

Given we’re in lockdown if you have a back garden that’s where your dc should be playing.

In normal years I’d assume toys left in the front garden would be stolen, and drunks would have a paddle and puke in the pool.

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 26/03/2020 15:00

One street I lived on, this was perfectly normal. The back gardens had a tendency to flooding, were very shaded, and easily turned into mudbaths. The front gardens were sunny, flat, and massive. The front gardens were usable most of the year. The driveways were useful for bikes, scooters etc.

Stompythedinosaur · 26/03/2020 15:01

We have kids stuff in both the front and back gardens, but it's common here. Can you take a queue from other houses nearby?

Ultimately I'd do whatever you need to at the current time, but aim to have noiser stuff at the back when you can.

bbyj2019 · 26/03/2020 15:03

Not just in lockdown dp and I are both keyworkers so gardening will have to be as and when, when I say jungle I genuinely mean jungle previous owners definitely didn’t have a green finger

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OnlyJudyCanJudgeMe · 26/03/2020 15:03

I would use the back garden.

bbyj2019 · 26/03/2020 15:04

Mix cues of neighbours I’m just a generally socially conscious person and wouldn’t like the thought of people judging Blush

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bbyj2019 · 26/03/2020 15:06

2 under 2 for context nothing spectacular garden toy wise

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DeepDarkWoods · 26/03/2020 15:08

Just clear a small area in back garden to start. I wouldn't use front it's not private enough for me.

Luc1nda · 26/03/2020 15:08

On my street this would be highly unusual and definitely raise (disapproving) eyebrows. In other areas it's the norm. I pass one close where the front gardens are treated communally and the green communal area out front is full of toys left out all summer. I would hate it, personally, but the inhabitants look as though they thrive on it.

maggiecate · 26/03/2020 15:12

Really depends on the layout and size of the garden, and how close to your neighbours you are.

If it's a tiny open plan patch of grass and you've got marauding shriekers YABU. If you've got a decent sized area with hedges/fences, you can keep your kids relatively under control and you remember the neighbours are about and you're considerate YANBU.

BarbaraofSeville · 26/03/2020 15:14

This is something people care about?

If the front garden is more suitable, use it. If anyone thinks there is something wrong with it, that's their issue.

Luc1nda · 26/03/2020 15:16

This is something people care about?

Yes, some people really care about their home and neighbourhood.

Albern · 26/03/2020 15:17

Agree with barbaraofseville do what's best for your kids and yourselves, if the fronts more suitable for you then decision made .

Deliqueen · 26/03/2020 15:18

My 2 and the 3 next door are currently out the front doing a fitness routine(whilst maintaining a safe distance). They are all over 10 though so able to chat from the mats and not get close! It is common here and it's really lovely that they all play together 😁.

Lynda07 · 26/03/2020 15:23

Up to you I suppose. Presumably the front garden is not visible to anyone walking past or not very, laid back from the road. A fitness regime is not the same as playing and socialising, that would be a definite 'nono' from most, the back garden is for that - keeping a distance from those next door but talking over fence maybe.

Go for it, give them a time limit though at the end of which, get them indoors or let them go to the back garden.

nomdefuckit · 26/03/2020 15:23

Let them play where is best for them.

As long as they're not making noise past seven, it really doesn't matter

TwoZeroTwoZero · 26/03/2020 15:24

Ours use both the front and back gardens here (as well as playing on the street under normal circumstances) and no-ones ever said anything. What's the point in having outdoor space if you're not going to use it?

Lynda07 · 26/03/2020 15:25

PS - to add, these are extraordinary times, we have to do what we can within the constraints advised. However no paddling pools at the front, please! I've never seen or even heard of that in the best of times.

nomdefuckit · 26/03/2020 15:26

You might lower the tone @twozerotwozero having horrible things like toys in the front garden...

Won't someone think of the house prices???

Letthemysterybe · 26/03/2020 15:33

at would be a definite 'nono' from most

A nono from Hyacinth Bucket maybe.

TwoZeroTwoZero · 26/03/2020 15:39

@nomdefuckit I don't think the tone of my neighbourhood can get much lower: I live in the roughest end of a huge council estate. At least the toys in my garden are working and in one piece! Grin

damnthatanxiety · 26/03/2020 16:00

...wouldn’t like the thought of people judging

comes onto Mumsnet Confused

bbyj2019 · 26/03/2020 16:02

@damthatanxiety in real life, hence coming to Mumsnet for opinions

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