Custody during Cv-19

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Is it unreasonable for children with50/50 custody time to continue moving between two parents houses? Mother side the kids also live with vulnerable (elderly poor health ) grandparents ... is a 14 day per household sensible? Mother states solicitor advises 100% custody at maternal residence is reasonable. No official custody arrangements to date. TIA

If one side lives with elderly people and the other doesn't, it would be sensible for them to live with the person that doesn't have them.

If that isn't agreeable, a 50/50 split is the only way, but keep in mind the increased risk to the vulnerable people.

is a 14 day per household sensible?

No, what is sensible is to stop moving them around.

Cafcass website has up to date information on this subject. Worth a read.

Moving 14 days is perfectly reasonable. What isn't acceptable is using this as an excuse to gain control over the children against the other parent.

I know there are plenty of bitter ex's uses this as the perfect excuse. 14 day isolation period is reasonable.

This could be going on for months. How would it be fair for one parent not to see their children for months?

My xh and I share custody 50/50 but fortunately we have a reasonably amicable relationship so I have moved in with him and dc temporarily. Obviously this isn't possible for everyone, and tbh it's not ideal for us, but for the sake of not moving dc backwards and forwards it's worth it.

The voting is silly as this isn't an AIBU. The children should still see both parents.

The advice on the TV was that children should still see both parents. if you can make every 2 wks work that's great but are you both happy with 2 wks each and can you make that work with your work commitments? If 2 wks not doable keep to original plans.

14 days each is far more reasonable than an attempt at preventing access.

If they are to stay in one place full time it would make more sense for them to stay with their father away from the vulnerable grandparents

In order to protect the child should they not stay in one place. There is Skype, facetime now that can be used. Yes, not ideal but it's not about the parents rights it is about saving lives and stopping the spread.

In order to protect the child should they not stay in one place

If they should be staying in one place then that place should probably be with the parent who doesn't have a vulnerable person living with them.

How would it be fair for one parent not to see their children for months?

It's a few months out of a lifetime. There are other ways of keeping in touch.

I asked DS1 if he was expecting to see his father during lockdown. He looked at me as if I was insane.

If they should be staying in one place then that place should probably be with the parent who doesn't have a vulnerable person living with them.

I don't think that makes much difference if no one is going out.

Cafcass advice is very clear: children should continue to see both parents. Read the Cafcass guidelines if you haven't already.

If you alienate your ex there is a risk that once the coronavirus crisis is over, he will go to court and get a court order put in place, and that's likely to be more onerous and restrictive than if you avoid court.

Thank you all for your comments really appreciate your time… It’s been agreed 14 days per house unless anyone Show symptoms… Take care all