AIBU to be disappointed by my future birthday present

[rookiemere]

Ok this is all very first world problem and I'm well aware there are more important things going on in the world so do please read and post with this proviso on mind.

So I have a big birthday coming up. Sadly it's while we are in lockdown so no big celebrations but like I told DS who has his on Saturday we'll be like the Queen and have two this year.

DH asked me what I wanted so I sent him a link to a top that I would really like but can't justify buying for myself because of the price, the link was to the correct colour and size. A few days later he was asking me what colour I liked - thinking he was planning a piece of jewellery or additional present I said blue.

Fast forward to now and the shop that stocked this item has a discount- I have a funny feeling that DH has bought what I wanted in the wrong colour which it ok I like it enough to have it in more than one colour, but think I can order the one I actually wanted myself.I know the box it arrived in is under the bed so I check it and not only had he ordered the wrong colour but it's a size bigger than I asked for so will be useless to me.

I am now quite disappointed- all he had to do was buy what I linked to. Should I say something now or wait until my birthday? It's a couple of weeks so he still would have time to return and buy the right one. Or do I say nothing at all and pretend I'm pleased to get it even though I'll never wear it as it will be too big.

Of course you must tell him!! What's the point of having it if you can't wear it?

Tell him now. If you wait a couple of weeks the one you actually want could be out of stock.

But if I tell him he'll know I've been snooping

You could say "Hey DH I just thought I would mention the shop with the top I asked for has a sale on so if you were thinking of getting it now is a good time. I have written the size and colour down on this bit of paper for you as its really important to me that these are right."

My ex husband used to do my birthday shopping at Asda the night before my birthday. The next day I would get the receipt out of his wallet and take them back to Asda to swap for something I would want. It was a bloody joke and he got annoyed with me but tough, it's my birthday.
If he can't be arsed to listen properly, he has no excuse for getting mad that you snooped.

Yeah I think I'll go with mentioning the shop has a sale on. Honestly I'm getting more annoyed the more I think about it - did he not think I'd linked to Black Medium for a specific reason .

Are you certain that the link preserved the colour/size, rather than just going to the default for the item? Particularly if that colour/size might have sold out. I'd have been inclined to mention colour and size in the email/text rather than just relying on the link.

Order the black medium now before it goes out of stock (presumably it will if it’s in a sale!)

I checked the link and it does connect to the right item. I might just buy it myself that's a good idea. Annoyingly I'd quite like it in the colour he selected just in the right size .

But it for yourself AND do the big hint about the sale on, if he does buy the right size you can return your order. If he fucks up again at least you have the top

*buy

Buy it yourself and make him feel bad every single day until the end of quarantine

Ha ha livefornaps I'll already get the injured lamb routine. I guess I could just buy myself the right one

YANBU.

DH asked what I wanted for a big birthday. I asked for an eternity ring-married 20 years and didn’t have one.
I sent him a link to an Art Deco stunning diamond ring in my size that I had sourced from a vintage jewellers.
He bought a different ring, one very similar- 2 sizes to big. Not refundable, attempted to resize which removed all the ring markings and the jeweller still left it too big. So, I can’t wear it, it’s value is crap without the markings and I still don’t have a wearable eternity ring.

Buy the one you want and make him return that one. Stuff the injured lamb routine (you can tell I’m still annoyed at DH 6 years on )

Tryreberse psychology - praising him for being so thoughtful and ahead of the game for asking about your birthday present ahead of the lock down - has he ordered it yet because they have suddenly got a sale on so if he wanted to give you an extra special birthday he could return the black medium and get a black medium and a blue medium for exactly the same price/just a little bit more. And that in case he is interested then you’ve emailed him the exact link again but this time on sale price and the exact link to the sale price other one, both right colour, right size. But if he is going to then he needs to hurry up as there aren’t many in the right size left and heaven forbid there’s no point getting the wrong size as you wouldn’t even be able to wear it just look at it...

Might be worth a shot?

Buy the one you want now. Say thankyou very much when you open his, that's so thoughtful that you bought a top I love, oh dear it's in the wrong size, I'll return it and get the right size...oh they only had this colour in my size...

So emboldened by the responses I told him and by the time I'd returned from my ( government approved only one of the day) walk , he had ordered the correct garment. Sadly not from the place that has them on sale so he doesn't get the discount, but hey ho.

Ah well, that is his cross to bear! I hope that you have a lovely birthday xx