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To be angry at my ex and his gf

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inthedarkx · 26/03/2020 13:41

So I found out my ex and his gf have been going in their cars and going for walks away from their home putting everyone at risk!! He comes to see my children and one was Born prem and he could then put my kids at risk!! Why can't people just stay in!! I'm planning not to let him see the kids if he can't just stay indoors and going for fancy walks!!

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Nicolastuffedone · 26/03/2020 14:05

They could just as easily trip over in a supermarket whilst out for essential shopping and break their leg and need an ambulance!...I walk every day, I go early when no-ones around.....I don’t walk ‘fancy’ though. Just one foot in front of the other ad usual.

NamasteAtHome · 26/03/2020 14:06
Original poster
inthedarkx · 26/03/2020 14:06

@Bufferingkisses to see the children, he doesn't always take them back to his flat because he wants to drive bank up to his gf house so he sees them for a few hours

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KaptenKrusty · 26/03/2020 14:06

lolz - i think you are just jealous of the fact that he has a girlfriend tbh! You need to calm down

BubblesBuddy · 26/03/2020 14:07

If he is their Dad make arrangements to Skype or allow him to visit. He should stay separate from girlfriend though.

OldEvilOwl · 26/03/2020 14:07

Sorry this!! Should not be driving to exercise

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Bluntness100 · 26/03/2020 14:07

Anyone else envisaging a bit of this going on?

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Original poster
inthedarkx · 26/03/2020 14:07

Ok shouldn't have called the walk 'fancy' but I'm the one he taking care of kids for him to be going out and about and coming here wily nilly when there is a virus about

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MiniTheMinx · 26/03/2020 14:11

for him to be going out and about and coming here wily nilly when there is a virus about

Never mind the fancy walking, just don't let him wily nilly visit :)

Easy.

PawPawNoodle · 26/03/2020 14:12
is this the fancy walking your ex is doing btw, OP?
LyndaSnellsSniff · 26/03/2020 14:14

Groups of two from different households should NOT be walking together. He should not be coming into your home. Use Skype/FaceTime.

YgritteSnow · 26/03/2020 14:14

Ok shouldn't have called the walk 'fancy'

Oh you definitely should have. It made me Grin and I am not doing much of that these days.

vhs95 · 26/03/2020 14:18

He needs to either move in with gf or stop meeting her until bojo sounds the all clear - he made it quite clear in the new rules. YADNBU and are just concerned for your children (as he should be!).

notreallybotheredaboutausernam · 26/03/2020 14:21

why does it make any difference if he lives with his gf or not?? If he's only seeing her and her kids, it's like he lives with her anyway. Why does it matter if sometimes he sleeps in a flat alone? I don't get this at all. Me and my DP live separately and alone but we are spending time together during this. How does it risk anyone?

Tigger001 · 26/03/2020 14:23

Yeah it's a weird one, I can understand you being a bit worried, you obviously don't know where the woman and her kids have been to be contracting and then passing on the virus.

But then you don't really know where he's been besides her, so you have to put your trust in him that he is following the guidelines. He shouldn't be visiting "friends" anyway by the guidelines and she is only a girlfriend so falls under that but I'm sure kids can still see the other parent of split families.

Is he staying more than 2 metres away from work colleagues?

DrFoxtrot · 26/03/2020 14:23

@notreallybotheredaboutausernam it doesn't risk others, you have assessed the risk and it's low so I think you can continue.

Just don't broadcast it otherwise you'll get insults and multiple exclamation marks rammed down your throat.

purpleboy · 26/03/2020 14:24

People from different households should not be in the same car, he is being irresponsible.
Jumping on op and calling her jealous is really not helpful, she is stuck at home 90% of the time like the majority of the country in Order to keep her children safe, her ex is doing whatever he wants and putting his children at risk, this is not a case of jealousy but pure selfishness from the ex.
By the way op I love the fancy walk, think I will start using this from now onSmile

HollySideEyes · 26/03/2020 14:25

I'm off for a fancy walk, I think it might involve a hip swivel.

HedgehogDramas · 26/03/2020 14:28

Wow - check out Joanna's camel toe in @PolPotNoodle 's video :)

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inthedarkx · 26/03/2020 14:28

@purpleboy thank you! Someone who understands where I am coming from. I have laughed at all the fancy walk comments tho.

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ShesGotBetteDavisEyes · 26/03/2020 14:30

Or is it a funny walk a la monty python?

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ShesGotBetteDavisEyes · 26/03/2020 14:32

I am Grin Grin Grin at prancercise! is she even for real???

HollySideEyes · 26/03/2020 14:33

And possibly a hip flask.

purpleboy · 26/03/2020 14:35

If this was a thread about you wanting to drive 40 minutes to your boyfriends house so you could take a fancy walk Grin you would be getting slated, such double standards!

Cherrysoup · 26/03/2020 14:37

You should not be allowing your ex into your house.

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