To feel like a fraud?

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I am classed as vulnerable as I have at least one of the long term health issues listed.
I got sent home from work as vulnerable.
For the same reasons.
But... at the moment I feel perfectly fine.
Even my arthritis pain is bearable.
I have got my key worker coming round later, delivering bread and milk. But I feel guilty!
I feel like I could walk alone to my tesco, 5 minutes down the road and buy my own bloody bread!
I feel guilty sending key in to a shop for me and my kids to have bread.
Key should be at home with her own family

This is only a rant. I will continue to isolate, with my kids, as we have been told.
But ugh. I want to be doing things to help those who really need it.
I dont want to be vulnerable when I feel perfectly fine.

Sorry to hear that you're in a vulnerable group OP .

Take the time you have now to care for yourself and your DC. You never know when you may need to call on your reserves. Look after your physical and mental well-being and do not feel guilty.

Take care .

I know how you feel. I'm exactly the same. DH is working. Then shopping. Picking up prescriptions. Coming home and having to strip and shower before he can do anything else.
He then has to do the heavier housework at weekends, because my cleaner cant come in.
And I feel fine and so guilty.

You just need to accept it and follow the guidelines. It's not really about how you feel right now, it's about managing the risks of you catching the virus.

I understand how you feel, I'm not sure what area you live in but we have a local volunteer group set up that is running helplines for vulnerable people. They need manning so maybe it's something you could help with so you feel as if you are doing something? They also need volunteers to call other people, who need a chat as they are feeling isolated and lonely? Our group is on Facebook so maybe have a look. Stay safe

Accept it. The point is you will definitely not feel fine if you get it. You must NOT get it

I have accepted it.
We are isolating.
Playing around in our secluded garden for fresh air.
It's quite nice really, a bit like a holiday.

I am glad I am not alone

YANBU to feel like a fraud. It doesn't mean you are a fraud, just that you are aware of the resources you are using.

The point is, if you got this illness, many more resources would be needed. That's the point of isolating vulnerable people - spend a (relatively) small amount of effort to prevent a much large amount being needed if you got stick.

Follow the advice, stay at home, and try to accept that even if it doesn't feel "right" at the moment, it is for the greater good - for you and for society.

I am autistic.

I dont do phones!
I have been Whatsapping people.
But that is only people I know.
I dont have faceache but will check on next door site

I feel like a fraud because I'm a paediatric nurse and we've never been quieter! People keep giving us free stuff and we aren't doing anything!

Clare0
Thanks for putting that in to words for me!

I know exactly what you mean. I'm healthy and in my thirties. I don't feel vulnerable in the slightest. But I'm on that list too and so is DH.
It's a weird thing to get your head around.
At least having the kids at home means I'm not short of things to do!

Toddler tea
You could be moved anywhere you are needed?
Or if a child gets covid?
You are on some kind of standby?

They've cancelled all the elective surgery and there have been very few admissions. I high risk as well as I Have MS so won't be redeployed to adults.

My ward will not be taking them unless there is no where else.

By keeping yourself safe you are doing what has been asked of you by the government. If you are not in need of NHS nursing care or an ITU bed you are helping to ensure there is one for someone else who needs it. YOU ARE NOT A FRAUD.

Know just how you feel, I'm in the shielding category as well. I feel fine and being told not to go out makes me want to go out but as PP says I worry that if I do get it I won't be fine and make things even worse. All of a sudden I've come to realise I'm actually ill and getting old, strange I don't feel ill or old.

Be safe. Everyone wants to keep vulnerable people safe -even the ones that don't feel vulnerable!!

We want as few people to die as possible and we want YOU to be one of the ones that stay safe

But if that feels too patronising try this...

By staying home you’re saving lives & resources. If you get it, you’ll be putting NHS staff at risk and using resources others could be using. 🤷🏻‍♀️Blunt but also true

I’m a bit jammed in the middle -I’m
51, high blood pressure, diabetic, overweight. ‘(Individually not on the shielding list, but combined probably should be (not been informed yet, but my surgery is still working through the list apparently). I’m set up to isolate, but my 90 year old Uncle isn’t - he’s very independent, totally ‘with it’ and will go out shopping if I don’t get what he wants (not in a nasty manipulative way, just he feels fit & healthy and loves shopping and thinks he’s fine to do it - we are managing to make him stay home by bringing him what he wants) but that means I’m going into Tesco & Waitrose to get what he ‘needs’.

I really shouldn't be in supermarkets, but I’m thinking my chances of survival are marginally better than his,so I’m doing it.

No one else can do it for him & no delivery slots available. He gets things are hard to get, but still wants very specific items (I guess you’re entitled to when you’re 90!!). He hates ‘putting me out’ but has reluctantly agreed to let me help, so I just need to pull up my big girl pants & go shopping for him.

STAY SAFE - let others help!! We want to x

I wish I didn’t have ‘underlying conditions’ as id like to be out helping many more people!! It’s making me feel very old and on the scrap heap!!