Should I worry about what people think of me here?

[DaniC562]

Hi everyone - I'm 25. I have a diagnosis of Aspergers Syndrome, and this causes me many day-to-day struggles. However, despite the challenges this causes, I have decided to take a brave step and have taken up a temporary job at Asda to help keep the shelves stocked - I start this tomorrow. I'm also making my tenth blood donation next Tuesday. It's just a small contribution, but I am proud to help in any way that I can.

I am very much looking forward to starting tomorrow, but naturally very nervous. I'm taking a year out of uni at the moment, following a bit of illness following a close family bereavement last year. I sort of worry about what people who went to school with me will think of me - for all my hard work - not being 'further on' in life, when they see me in the store. I know it is a totally absurd thing to worry about deep down, but naturally I do - particularly given that I worked so hard at school and that a lot of people had very high expectations for me there. Many are in professional jobs now, and I still need to finish uni (my delays have been due to illness, and being diagnosed with Aspergers and needing to restart with the correct support)

Poll:

Should I worry about what people think of me here, or proud of my efforts?

YABU - Be proud of your efforts/don't worry
YANBU - I should be concerned with what people think about me

Thanks everyone! :)

Why would anyone give a shit about what other people think of them, if they are just getting on and being a decent human being!

Screw people and their snobby perceptions of determining success. Last year they would have looked down their nose on shelf stackers, right now it’s the most stable employment you could have!!

I’m autistic. I think you should be proud and not give a damn what anyone thinks. I hope you enjoy your work.

You won’t know what people think about you- unless they say it out loud. Which is unlikely.
So what YOU are thinking they might be thinking of you says more about what you ACTUALLY think. Give yourself some support and make sure YOU believe what you said as the YABU option- be proud of your efforts and don’t worry. It sounds like YOU had these high expectations of yourself and there are good reasons why you haven’t gone down that route YET but your time will come and what you’re doing now is going to be helpful and worthy.
👏🏻

be proud

Well done for facing your struggles, don't compare yourself with other people and focus on what you have achieved.

Thankyou for stepping up to help get essentials to people right now.

I know a Doctor who is currently making supermarket deliveries to people’s doors.

He’s a doctor of humanities, rather than anything medical!

All I’ve heard mutual friends say is how much get up and go he has, to get work when everyone else is losing theirs, and how great that he’s doing a key role to keep people fed.

Well done to you OP and good luck at work.

You should be very proud because you are doing what makes you happy and useful and that's all that counts.

Luckily I discovered fairly early in adulthood not to give a monkeys about others opinions and it honestly has done me a favour. And life is a marathon, not a sprint, as my gran used to say.

Good luck tomorrow!

Be proud. Your blood donation record is awesome.

Definitely be proud.

You've achieved a lot and should be proud of that and of your spirit of helpfulness.

Own it and I'm sure you'll be fine. And thank you for doing such a useful job at such a trying time.

Be proud.

Be proud.
Everyone does what they can with their own circumstances and opportunities. It's not an even playing field in life.

Most people aren't that involved in what other people do, especially those they knew several years ago, they're too busy getting on with/ feeling paronoid about their own lives

I am in a professional group online - for an industry that is likely to be massively impacted by the virus. A number of us (professionals, I'm one of the more junior, with nearly 30 years experience in the sector) are either considering, or have already applied to work in supermarkets: partly financial, partly to do something to help. I honestly, honestly don't think anyone will think anything of you other than how impressive you are to put yourself in the frontline of helping with a vital job at this time. And if they do, their opinion is definitely not worth worrying about for 2 minutes together.

Well done you!

Good luck in your first day, OP! The right sort of people won't judge you. Those who do - what do they know, anyway?

You should be very proud! Good luck for your first day.

Loads of students will be working in supermarkets at the moment as will those whose businesses are on hiatus.
Regardless of any of that there is nothing to ashamed about working in a supermarket for any reason. People who are think spiteful thoughts about it aren't worth knowing and if they aren't worth knowing then their thoughts and petty minded opinions are meaningless.

Go you @DaniC562!
Good luck at work and kudos for your blood donations. I can’t imagine why anyone would look down on you, but if anyone is ridiculous enough to judge you try and rise above it and remember what great things you’re currently doing.

Ditch anyone who regards it a negative. Live your life as you want to live it.

Good for you, very impressed by the blood donations.

Good luck with the job, just concentrate on doing what you need to do and ignore those who look wrong at you

💕for your blood donations.

🌟for taking on a supermarket job right now.
We NEED the food supply chain,desperately, I admire anyone working in a supermarket.

Anyone looking down on you for doing that is a) a twat & b) a thick idiot.

Be proud of what you’re doing!!!

I’m not sure what you think people might judge you for. For taking a year out? For working in a supermarket? Why would anyone care?

And no, don’t give a hoot about strangers on an internet forum.

Be very proud of yourself.

Be extremely proud of yourself.

How did your first day go, OP?