To not get vouchers for new baby

[littlegardenpeas]

My SIL who is due soon keeps asking for vouchers instead of us buying something in particular for their first dc.

Since this Coronavirus has kicked off it's unlikely I'll get to meet the baby so I really wanted to get something that could be seen in photos etc as that's the only way I'm going to see the baby for the foreseeable future unfortunately.

SIL keeps asking for vouchers. All the big items have been bought by her family but I've been told not to buy clothes as they have too much already, I should get vouchers. I feel really awkward getting vouchers but also disappointed I won't be getting the baby a specific item to remember.

Aibu to not get a voucher? I have no idea how much if I do get one either. I've said send me something to buy instead but she's still saying a vouchers. Maybe I don't have a choice I don't know.

Memory box with vouchers inside ? Doesn't have to be anything big, just a bit nicer than an envelope and a nice keepsake for the little one.

id give money rather than vouchers, who knows how many retailers are gonna go bust during this

I wouldn't be getting a voucher for anyone at the moment. Who knows which retailers will get through our current situation.

Get the vouchers.

Yeah yabu

This isn’t your baby. You don’t get to want when it comes to things for it.

So get the vouchers and let SIL get what she needs for her own baby

Why wouldn't you get a photo unless it has something you bought in it?

Good point about money instead of vouchers though.

If you really must do something, why don’t you get a nice baby book and slip the money inside

I'd get someone so grabby a big fat nothing.

Well obviously I don't have to do anything I just wanted to and yes selfishly I wanted to get something from me but I was happy to be asked for something to get not just go and buy something I wanted to get.
Anyway as I've said I'll give cash. How much I don't know yet.

Send a classic book - lion witch etc and write a lovely message in the front for the child when she’s over and a dinosaur cuddly toy.

Actually in this climate I'd send a cheque / bank transfer.
Who knows what businesses will go to the wall rendering vouchers useless.

Can you get a voucher and a small gift, as others have said a book or perhaps a personalised comforter when you know baby's name

One of the best gifts I was given after DS was born was a voucher for my local supermarket. It was brilliant.

Get her vouchers, it isn't about you and what you want to see the baby wearing. It will shit all over it anyway.
Knit a blanket if you want something to give them something to keep

Gifts are for the recipient’s benefit, not the giver’s! In fairness OP does acknowledge this, but really.

£25 voucher to the nearest supermarket is fine.

Don't send cash, most shops won't take it. Do a bank transfer.

I'd get a small gift - a book is a good idea as it will last a lot longer and get more use than clothes. I just bought "A Busy Day for Birds" which is good for quite a range of child ages. Also you could make something if you have good craft skills, like a bib in some nice fabric.

Thanks some good ideas. And yes really.

And I didn't say I just wanted to buy an outfit. I would have bought anything they asked for but they've asked for a voucher so I will just send some money over now. I find it less awkward to buy gifts than vouchers maybe I'm old fashioned. But everyone's right it's not me receiving the gift.