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AIBU?

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...to continue drive for babies to sleep?

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okayokaywhatsnext · 24/03/2020 21:16

I have 9m twins. They only sleep in the car for nap times. WIBU to continue to take them for a drive at nap time under current rules?

I strap them into seats inside then carry to car. Car is parked in private parking space directly behind my house. My usual route is to go to motorway and drive north for 2 junctions then turn around and come home then sit outside my house in the car with sleeping babies. Then when they wake I carry them in seats back inside the house.

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user1493413286 · 25/03/2020 08:00

I would take this as an opportunity to get them out of this habit; I found it much easier to break habits at 9 months compared to a couple of months later at 11-12 months. As they can sleep well in their cots at night it shouldn’t take too long to do and you know they can

Elouera · 25/03/2020 11:23

To be blunt- a crying baby is better than a dead one!!!

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okayokaywhatsnext · 31/03/2020 23:11

It’s been 5 days now and they’ve screamed solidly for an hour for each nap attempt in their cot. I can’t do this.

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Bringmewineandcake · 31/03/2020 23:55

Put them in the pram / pushchair and them out for a walk at nap time then.

You can do this.

Grandmi · 31/03/2020 23:59

My granddaughter was used to the car but now she is taken out for a walk in pram ..she is asleep within minutes !!

Russell19 · 01/04/2020 07:25

I'd do a walk in the pram. You can do this!!! Xx

Poetryinaction · 01/04/2020 07:31

Do it. But don't go on the motorway.

Sunflower1987 · 01/04/2020 07:47

Do their infant car seats fix onto the pram? I wouldn’t usually advocate using the car seat on the pram but how about getting them strapped unlike usual, then going fora walk either for 1 hour (or slightly longer!) or just until they are asleep then park them up in the garden. I really feel for you, it’s so hard at the moment but you are doing the right thing by avoiding the car.

midnightstar66 · 01/04/2020 08:02

It's a habit I'd be trying to break regardless of current circumstances, but especially because of... you can't guarantee you won't break down. You're going to need petrol, petrol pumps are a huge spreader apparently. You could end up in an accident and need to go to hospital which is a problem both in utilising those services and risk of becoming infected.

FamilyOfAliens · 01/04/2020 08:05

It’s been 5 days now and they’ve screamed solidly for an hour for each nap attempt in their cot. I can’t do this.

You also can’t go out for a drive on a non-essential journey.

Parenting babies is hard when they are screamers. Many of us have been there and come out the other side. Is their dad in the picture? What does he do to help?

FamilyOfAliens · 01/04/2020 08:07

Do it. But don't go on the motorway.

Please don’t follow this stupid advice to ignore the guidelines that are in place to keep everyone safe. They apply to you as well.

SuburbanFraggle · 01/04/2020 09:47

It’s been 5 days now and they’ve screamed solidly for an hour for each nap attempt in their cot. I can’t do this

You were given advice to try put them in a car seat to nap or to walk them in a buggy at nap time.

Did you ignore that advice or did it fails after multiple attempts?

Scruffyoak · 01/04/2020 09:49

Honestly they will fall asleep when they need to nap just keep playing then they should crash this afternoon.

Smurf123 · 01/04/2020 10:04

Ds is now 24 months he has never slept in the cot for a nap.. But he will sleep in the pram. Takes a while sometimes but as op said raincover over and short walk of you want it. Otherwise just standing rocking him back and forth in the garden. My dh is Danish and a huge advocate of babies should nap outdoors so ds stays out in his pram in the garden by the patio doors so I can still see him.

cocoaweebles · 01/04/2020 10:07

No.Somebody locally was run into the hedge yesterday by a dick doing over 60mph down a country lane. They posted their dash cam images to the police and on the local fb group

RedPanda2 · 01/04/2020 10:09

I don't think you'd be able to justify it to police. It's hard enough justifing that the community nurses need to drive to peoples houses.

Muchtoomuchtodo · 01/04/2020 23:04

You cannot go for a drive to get your kids to sleep.
You can find an alternative.
It might not be easy, but you can do it.
Please do.

gingerbiscuits · 01/04/2020 23:52

Sorry. I'm usually an advocate of 'do what works for you & your babies & sod what people say' but on this occasion...no. It's not an essential journey & might be a blessing in disguise - ideal time to break the habit which must be incredibly inconvenient for you & not at all good for them either in terms of time spent in carseats.

Rach2014 · 28/05/2020 10:34

How did you get on afterwards? For us I had to separate them or the crying would (and still does sometimes at nearly two) just go on and on. At that age I would use a sling for one and rock the other in the buggy or vice versa and if I could get one off in the buggy I had a chance of getting the other to sleep upstairs in the cot afterwards (in peace). Tamba has a great helpline and talking to someone who had been in the same boat helped me on a few of the non stop crying days. Ido hope it’s gotten better for you. Found this all much simpler with one baby when I had my eldest.

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