To saying no to going back and forth?

[Ineedwine1]

I'm a single parent. Me and ex discussed if there was a lock down we would do 1 week each alternating until this was over. Then obviously the announcement happened last night and DS was at his dad's for the night. So we both agreed at the 1 week thing so we were not going back and fourth like our current arrangement.
This morning he texts and asks if I can have DS today because he needs to work. I say no because I don't want to be going back and fourth. He has his dad at and mum at home to help so he can still work. I have had to take unpaid leave and holiday these past 2 weeks because before this our DS had chicken pox. So I've been in the house for pretty much almost 14 days. He then blocked me and told me I was unreasonable because i wouldn't have DS for 1 day and then back to his tonight.
Aibu to say let's not go back and fourth constantly? I really did want to see my DS today and I'm upset but I think it's what's for the best atm.

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Yabu not to have your ds today but yanbu to say he then spends this week with you

He blocked you? What is he, a child? YANBU at all.

YANBU.. If you keep chopping and changing your DS won't know wha is going on. If he has his grandparents right there in the house anyway, then he should stay put. I'm relieved kids can move between their two homes but a regular pattern is better, barring emergencies

He'll have to try and work with his kids home like everybody else!

YANBU at all.

I know his excuse was a conference call which wouldn't last long and I had to take one yesterday with my DS there. I felt bad but needed to listen to it. Didn't hear my going on at him to have DS. Excatly DS needs routine and not being passed about. I really miss my DS but it's what's best for him. However my ex seems to like to do what's best for himself

He can suck it up buttercup like everyone else working from home. Does he think no one else is making calls with their kids there? Would he expect you to have DS every time he has to do this? Because that's clearly unworkable so you may as well say no now.

unless he works for M15 or security services it will hardly be difficult to make calls esp. if his parents are there too, ex sounds like a selfish tosser.

My ex is the same, he moved in with his GF and her kids 2 weeks ago (after 2 months together, but that's another story), he had our boys at his flat for his last night. I told him he will need to bring them to me before school, as I haven't got much petrol to pick them up from his and not much money. He said ok.
Low and behold in the morning got the call to say can you pick them up as he was busy packing. I've spent the last 2 years of being split up helping him out with shit and letting him use me, so I finally said no. He wasn't happy and didn't drop them back to me till 9.10.
Then last week I asked him if he has any idea when he'll start paying his maintenance again, he said we're all struggling, I said who and he said the uk
Then! he said his GF will give me petrol money if I can take the kids to his house (an hour away) I said no, as 1, we should keep the kids in 1 household, especially as she has 4 children and he has asthma. And 2, I'm not taking money off a woman who has 4 children to feed and now you, as your not working.
He blocked me too

Thank you all. I was doubting myself and feeling the bad guy. I will add he was mentally and emotionally abusive when we were together. Ended up in a woman's refuge. Over the years we have been civil. But a pattern emerges where if I say no he emotionally blackmails me or playing the victim. I always take days off for our son when he's been ill. He knows I won't get paid but still refuses to help. So today when he didn't get my own way and he blocked me I doubted myself but actually it's not fair. His words were "its not about what's fair right now, it's what is right".