Child contact / covid19

[jezza4pm]

Child has been with me for the last 3 weeks, we initially had to isolate when the kids had a cough.
Since then it's come to light about the 12 week isolation for at risk groups.

I'm at risk and have a txt from GP to say I need to isolate.
Aibu to keep child with me and not send to dads whilst in lockdown.
I don't want child bringing anything back.
In different circumstances I would send child to dad to isolate but child is autistic and there's a court order in place, waiting for another date to discuss how much child is struggling with overnight contact due to sensory/no routine/sleepwalking and having no bed there.

What is reasonable that I can say or do?
What can I legally do?
My health is very poor and I have two younger children also in at risk catagories.

Please don't reply with govt statement because I've seen it, I want to know what others would do in this specific situation. I don't want to upset anybody. But dad isn't a reasonable person

Anybody?

As far as I'm aware, it's okay to switch between houses when no risk and it's suitable.
There is also no penalty from courts when you can't follow the court order.

So if it were me, I'd keep them with me.

Good luck

If you are one one the 1.5mil who have been contacted regarding a 12week isolation then you cannot leave your home at all

Not for food, medicine, child swaps, walks. anything

I wouldn't send him, especially if you are at risk and need to be in isolation. There shouldn't be exceptions to that.

I am in a reasonably similar situation Jezza, I am separated with a 2 year old who normally goes to his dad every other weekend. My DS has already been with me for last 3 weeks due to cough, he should have been going to his dads this weekend, a journey of over 100 miles away.

I currently live with my parents who are in vulnerable categories, especially my mother. If my DS brings this back from travelling between houses this could very well kill her, or my dad.

My ex was emotionally and verbally abusive to me and I don't trust him that he will not take him to see grandparents etc.

It is awful isn't it. I know the government advice this morning says that child contact is exempt but I think l common sense is involved too when lives could be endangered and our children could literally act as typhoid Mary. And you have the added complication of needing a stable secure environment for your child.

I think, and I feel very selfish saying it, but that it is best to keep child and maintain contact with skype/social media in the interim.

This cannot last forever but the other consequences will. My ex is unreasonable too though so I do understand. I got "it's not my fault you live with your parents, I need to see my son" at the weekend.

This is people's health and lives we are dealing with here, it is only 12 weeks at the end of the day. As painful as that is for everyone concerned.

Only my opinion in somewhat similar circumstances

My DC aren’t visiting their Dad. He lives 30 miles away and he can’t drive so previously had to drop them off at a train station 20 mins away and he’d do it that way, he only saw them for a few hours on a Saturday or Sunday anyway so not a massive deal. He’s FaceTiming them once or twice a week and is fine with that, accepts it’s safer for everyone. He has a high risk job and I’m in a high risk category so the risk just isn’t worthwhile just so he can see them for 6 hours a week.

Should also say my DC aren’t bothered. Perhaps sad but just the way it is. I think if Dad lives in the same town and he lives alone and is working from home it isn’t overly risky. If travel is involved and Dad is still going to work/lives with someone who is then yeah, it’s too risky.

@nannyogg is it a known thing that there is no penalty from courts?
Even when a child arrangement order is in place?
Could you point me in the direction of any info?
Thanks