To be furious with exh

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I am at home with the kids 24/7 for the last 12 days.
Exh has been over for two hours twice to visit as arranged.
He asked months ago if he could book a weekend away this weekend coming, for
An event associated with his hobby.
This meant that our kids would be with me for three weekends in a row. I had no
Problem with that, before the pandemic hit. I didn't ask him to change the weekend as I had agreed to it . I stupidly presumed that he would want to have kids this weekend coming as said event is cancelled.
But no, he has other plans now namely with his exit affair partner ( yes I'm still hurt) .
Aibu to be furious?
It Means that the kids will be with me 24/7 for three weeks besides a few breaks of two hours here and there.
I spoke with him earlier and told him that I thought I was being selfish. He completely disagreed as he had the weekend
To himself as planned months ago. He's just changed his plans and it is how it is now This was all planned Before this pandemic reared it's ugly head . AIBU ?

Four hours in twelve days?

He's a prick

So AIBU?

Of course your aren’t but he’s already a bit of a crap dad, no?

I'd rather they were with me in the circumstances we have at the moment, at least that way you know where they have been and can call the shots about their safety. It doesn't make him any less of a dick of course.

I would rather that too but he doesn't want that either 🙄

I'm in the same boat. My ex has done fuck all with DS since this whole thing started.

Now we're on lockdown so he should not be visiting your home (or you his). It's shit, I get it. I'm facing the prospect of weeks, possibly months without a break, but we have no other choice. We must go on.

I would be ok if I knew one way or another.
He is a selfish prick as it is.
The only silver lining now is that his problems
Are not my problems anymore ... yipppeee!
Thanks to MN for that revelation. 🤗

No yanbu but honestly he sounds like a shiylt dad so probably best your kids are with you, their lovely mum. Console yourself that they will look back on this time and know that you were their rock.

Could be worse, my stbex went abroad for probably 8 weeks last week due to self isolation without a backwards glance to his kids!! Claims he’s a good Dad though 🤣He’s definitely not essential to the running of the world, although he would beg to differ, he just wants to fill his bank account when I’m down to 80% on minimum wage! Definitely a mans world!

Actually given the lockdown it’s probably safer to keep them with you, rather than mixing households

My ex hasnt seen his kids for over a month due to the "rain" then one of the kids showed symptoms so I had to lock down for two weeks normal dad would be concerned messaging asking if you needed anything calling his kids? No he called me and spoke to me at great length about his girlfriend suddenly being a "confirmed case" he has it too has been really bad with it coughing and everything (cough) told me I needed to clean my house with bleach (didnt offer to get it for me) give the kids lucozade (didnt offer that either,) and informed me they would be fine because they both had an acid reflux and acid kills the virus (he actually has one too by his definition he shouldn't even be seriously ill) and that was it 🤦‍♀️ no asking to speak to them just me me me bla bla bla one single cough and bye I'm too used to this to be furious with him I've refused to text him updates because I find it a waste of time on my part I wait for him to ask because part of me feels its validating that he cares enough to text he never texts ds either even though he is on his xbox live account and can message him anytime he likes

It's sad