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AIBU to throw DS(19) out when he has nowhere else to go?

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haggistramp · 23/03/2020 19:48

This is more a rant than anything else. Fucking Ds is a selfish stupid arse. We are self isolating best we can. Dh is key worker so still having to go to work everyday but literally goes to work then comes home and stays in. Im now working from home. Not going out. Have enough shopping for at least a week. Ds came home on Friday. Despite telling him to stay in went away out partying on Friday night. Was told door would be locked as he wasnt getting in. Cue him banging the door at 3am drunk wanting in. Told him to go back to his friends which he did. Turned up on Saturday begging to be let in as he had nowhere left to go, so we let him back in. Made it strictly clear that we are self isolating and what is expected. Sunday he had a fucking friend round (who was quickly dispatched). Tonight there was a knock at the door, ds gets it, we hear coughing and the door closing. It was his friend dropping something off, but weve not to worry as its just a smokers cough, apparently! Ive had fucking enough. AIBU to throw him out on his arse?

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rwalker · 24/03/2020 07:36

struggling here as well but not last week we were on about social distance he didn't get it and went to GF.
over the weekend it's sinking in last night he came home and said he's going to bored at home for the forseeable so progress.
Says he going to see GF when he goes out for his 10 min fitness fix bike ride . Never said anything deal with that today.
And for people say just tell him just make him can fuck off as poster said 6ft adult you can't lock the door .
mine is repectful but just not getting it at first but defiantly a change in attitude over weekend .

Taddda · 24/03/2020 08:10

I think difficult situations at home are going to affect many, and it's a fair point on whether people can actually live together stuck under the same roof when relationships are already at breaking point- there is no other option right now, but I think they'll be many conversations today about 'other options'-

I really feel for anyone going through a relationship break up-

EL8888 · 24/03/2020 08:14

YANBU why can’t he be thrown out, he is selfish and putting other people in danger. Him being 19 has nothing to do with it, he’s an adult but just happens to act like a 4 year old

EL8888 · 24/03/2020 08:15

@Beansandcoffee why does OP have to resolve it?! She’s not the one being stupid and thoughtless. Let him work it out

TheWordmeister · 24/03/2020 08:22

YANBU why can’t he be thrown out

He’s 19! You’re supposed to, you know, support them if they fuck up, not just throw them out. Jeez. No wonder people end up a mess...

PokemonWanker · 24/03/2020 10:08

Same issue with DS1. Over 6 foot and has gone out on a bike ride for “as long as he likes” with 2 friends. Apparently I’ve been shitty with him the last 5 days and that’s why he won’t stay home. The reason I’ve been “shitty” is because he won’t curb his socializing.

I don’t want to make him leave but if he stays he’s clearly not going to follow the rules. At what point do you say enough is enough.

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