Checked partner's phone - is this normal?

[Thepurplefactor]

I had recent trust issues with my partner and though he didn't cheat on me I still have a compulsion to go through his mobile as I am still panicky about his previous searches. His history is all deleted but I found some Samsung notes for saved links for pornhub, two of them, one for 'Deutsche teen Hure tribt es mit alte...' and another for 'Mature mom with big tits'

Is this normal for men? Should I ask him about it or carry on monitoring?

Am I being unreasonable to think this is weird behaviour?

You are both out of order here

Checking your partners phone is not normal.
You are the one in the wrong here, not your poor partner.

I honestly believe if there is no trust, there is no relationship. You don’t have a relationship, you are punishing him for your insecurities.

I think you need some sort of help, be that couples therapy or some other councilling, it’s not healthy for either of you.

PeterPanGoesWrong he’s hardly a poor partner he’s been looking up escorts online.

Fgs dump him and get a grip. In your next relationship, leave the first time he lies. But dont go looking for bad news.

Wow, YABVU. You have no right to go through his phone; he’s allowed privacy. You have no right to know what he does or what he looks at on there.

You should be ashamed of yourself; this is despicable behaviour and you have violated a fundamental right of privacy.

If you don’t trust him, your relationship is dead in the water anyway.

Unreasonable to check his phone but it's a personal choice whether porn is ok in your relationship or not. It sounds like he's just saved his favourite porn so he doesn't have to scroll for ages, which isn't weird imo. I know my ex had favourite kinds of porn (it was a bit awkward as it was big boobed blondes whereas I'm a little boobed brunette) I just laughed it off because I was ok with it, but it's ok if you're not. Escorts on the other hand absolutely not!!

German teen takes it with old
How old is he? :-S

you will feel better when you have made a decision: leave or stay. If you stay you're going to have to work on the trust issues or you'll drive yourself mad

I’m not sure of your logic that truly lovely men check out escort sites when in a relationship. My view would be the opposite. How long have you been with him? Seems relatively new, do you live together, Have kids? Why are you so desperate to stay with him?

For me personally, I wouldn’t be bothered about the porn, we all have different views on that, but if I was with someone who was sleeping with prostitutues or looking to do, I’d be out. Monitoring his phone is no way to live, especially since it seems it doesn’t matter what you find, you’ll stay with him.

Sorry the searches you did last summer, in the early stages of your relationship, was that from you monitoring his phone then? Have you been doing this since as soon as you could?