Two Households - 8 Kids, Do We Separate Them

[nickia77]

I guess this isn't really an IABU, more 'what would you do?'.....I am novice poster so please be gentle.
My childrens father and I are divorced, I have 5 kids with him and he is re-married to a lady with two kids and he had another son after we divorced but before het met his wife.
Normally the kids here go to their dad's family every two weeks and it all works great, the kids step-mum is an absolutly amazing lady and sometimes we have to alter dates because of parties and other commitments and it is all fine, we have a really good relationship and the kids really benefit from seeing us all.
Now for the problem....our oldest daughter is a children's nurse who is looking after kids with suspected coronavirus and our middle daughter has very brittle asthma (hospitalised a few times a year, a few times a year on prednisolone, once been in HDU). We are keeping the oldest away from the middle as much as possible, middle daughter has an amazing peak flow monitor that plugs into her phone so we are keeping a close eye on her levels and how many inhalers she is having to use.
Their dad has Type 1 diabetes that isn't very well controlled, after a conversation with my oldest (nurse) daughter we decided it would be best for her not to go to her dad's to protect his health.
I am now thinking that it might be a good idea for all of the kids not to go to their dads to avoid us taking the virus to their home or them picking it up and bringing it to my home.....I looked for some kind of guidance online but couldn't find any.
I spoke with my kids today and they said that they would be okay to use Zoom to hang out with their dad, step-mum and 3 other step/half siblings. I worry though that they don't realise just how long this is going to be for and whether this is going to have an effect on the mental health of my kids or the kids at their dads house because they have such a lovely relationship.
Just to add a further complication, my ex-hubby has pancreatitis which he has passed down to 2 of the kids so the are not in high risk due to this but another health worry.
What would you all do guys?

I think given the health concerns with several of your family no physical contact is the best way to go my daughter has asthma and she has said she wont be coming to my house for this , I will miss her so much but whats got to be done has to be done and I cant go to visit my brand new great grandson who ive only seen for one hour since he was born but I wouldn't risk taking any germs near a new born

I think I would ask your adult daughter not to visit due to the risk to her younger sister.

Or, if that can't happen, send the younger daughter to live with her dad for a while?

isseywith4vampirecats - I am trying to keep them all as separate as possible.
I am so sorry to hear about your daughter and grandson, at least we will be out of all this for when he gets mobile and his little personality starts to really come out.
I hope you daughter has managed to get all the supplies she needs with all this dumb panic buying.
Congrats on becoming a nanna

manic insomniac - thank you for your advice, unfortunately my oldest still lives at home (newly qualified so really chucked in the deep end of nursing) and I can't really send younger one to her dads because she has really bad allergies against fur (amongst other things, bless her she really had all the rubbish stuff chucked at her) and dad has a cat (just a weekend visit is manageable with antihistamines and creams for her skin and extra whalers but long term it wouldn't work and I couldn't ask them to re-home their pet (the kids there love it).
I think we have decided not to let any of the kids go to their dad's and step-mum and just have lots of Zoom conversations with all the kids at their dads and we will just have to be very careful at home when the oldest daughter comes home off shifts, apparently they are trying to get the good PPE for the staff at hospitals now so I will feel far easier knowing that she isn't just using paper mask and plastic disposable apron.
Thanks again for your advice