Teen going to stay with grandma

[Lou780]

Is this crazy? My friend is a teacher.. She has a 16 Yr old dd who has been in school with over 1000 kids till last Friday. She ignored my advice and went to see her elderly mother aged 80 today for mothers day. They were actually going to go out for a picnic but I managed to talk her out of that.. So they just went round to granny's and apparently stayed 6feet apart.
However now my friend has announced that as she is still working next week and granny is lonely and complaining.. She is sending her 16 Yr old dd to stay with granny for a week! Isn't this the opposite of what we are supposed to do?

Well as someone from an NHS hospital said said on Radio 2 today ‘see your Mum today and we’ll see her in 2 weeks’. Which is the exact moment the system will be collapsing. Maybe get your friend to watch this and see how she feels then:

(this is us, in two weeks or less if people don’t get their shit together)...

m.youtube.com/watch?fbclid=IwAR20Fr5xtpInaWE1L5HxWk-po9L9ziDAq7IQjmyaNjxtR6toeApm61NdJko&v=xiY32pglV-g&feature=share

Hopefully though military lockdown will be announced tomorrow to protect us all from the stupid. Let’s see..(& presuming the 80 year old watched Boris today and is actively choosing to ignore the 12 week isolation - it’s her choice to do so but if she is choosing to take up a bed/ventilator in two weeks from someone who ended up near death but won’t survive because there aren’t the resources, then presuming she is mentally capable of that choice and isn’t being bullied into she doesn’t deserve much sympathy & her chances of survival are almost 50/50 - just why!?).

It's their decision. They must be aware of the risk. Some older people i talked to were like id it happens it happens. I dont know if its denial or depression or being fed up with life.

If not id

Why did you persuade them not to go for picnic? Surely that would have been safer for Granny?

Is the 16 yo able to make an informed decision, free of pressure, on this?

I have a family member who is the director of education for a local council. She posted on social media today about her park work out, also about picking up and dropping off a friend in her car to do so. If so called professionals don’t get this we’re all doomed

She is crazy. An Italian doctor said kids are going to see their grandparents and basically killing them. That was how he phrased it. Not only is that awful for everyone in the family but how will her daughter feel if it happens in this case?

Irresponsible.

Crazy.

We were going to see DH's 93yo DGM by talking to her 6 feet away through her window, but we decided to not even risk that.

Can the DGM FaceTime or Skype? We had 6 of us (including DGM) yesterday.

I totally disagree @OrganzaLopez.

It's their decision. They must be aware of the risk. Some older people i talked to were like id it happens it happens. I dont know if its denial or depression or being fed up with life.

They are either not aware of the risk or they couldn’t give a damn about anyone else.

Anyone who says “if it happens, it happens” deserves to be turned away from hospital when they inevitably get ill because of their own stupidity. The whole point of social distancing is so that we don’t all get ill at the same time and overwhelm the health system.

Your friend is a moron and the granny is as good as dead (along with the person they are potentially taking a hospital bed from).

Ridiculous and dangerous. If your friend is a teacher, she's a bloody embarrassment (I'm a teacher so can say that).

A 16 year old is more than capable of staying at home on their own. If the dgm is tech savvy then they can Skype or Facetime. Otherwise they phone for a chat or dd goes round and the dgm puts a chair by the front door and the dd stays on the drive at a very safe distance. Or dd can go in the garden if it can be accessed without going through the house.

Dp has been reading about why the death rate in Italy is so much higher than countries like Germany. It seems to be partly because of the older population (the average age of victims is higher than elsewhere). This has been exacerbated by the large number of traditional multi - generational households. So younger members of families are being infected, bringing the virus home and killing off the older members of the family.

YANBU

My brother went to see my mother yesterday. I asked him not to go.

I asked my mother to put it off too but neither of them take this seriously.

I cannot believe he's been so reckless with our mother's life.

It's so frustrating that people don't seem to be getting it.. I can almost see my friends eyes glaze over when I try to tell her this is a bad idea.. Except I can't because we are talking on phone lol. She used to be a pharmacist too..so is educated. Unfortunately she always thinks she knows better medically because of this. Her dd has been brought up to ever question her mother... So totally trusts her actions on this. I thought the picnic was a bad idea because for one they would allbein the car together.