Hello, friend of 20 years (both now aged 31) is being snappy with me and I feel like I’m walking on eggshells around her. However I don’t know if I’m being hypersensitive and reading into things/not getting “jokes” or if my gut is right. I feel like I just really irritate her.
This started from last year when got the train to visit a mutual friend in another city for her birthday. I arrived at lunch time and had lunch in a group (including this friend) and then went to a bar/club in the evening, where I stayed until 10pm and then got the last train home.
A couple of months later the friend said to me I was wrong to have gone home in the same day and that I should have slept at the other friend’s house (birthday girl). I said I didn’t want to sleep on the floor. She said I should have, she did, it was fine and that I shouldn’t be such a grandma. I am still young and I am missing out on things.
Since then I just feel odd comments I make seem to wind her up. An example last month I went to a hotel for my birthday. I have misophonia and so does she so one of messages to her was “ I’m in a hotel tonight and on edge about any annoying noise fingers crossed for none 🤣”
Her reply was: “ Would you rather have coronavirus or have a small flashing green light in the room when youre trying to sleep for a period of 6 months?”
Am I reading into things? Am I being paranoid? Or do I need to back off from this friend and give her space? Although saying that I have only seen her once in over 6 months as she has been travelling