Mothers day

[Butterflybees]

I know there are much much greater problems in the world now but I am wondering am i being stupid.

Teenage DD bought me a lovely car and gift today, got a card for her younger sister to give me also. I didnt get a card from
DS. (10)
Asked H and he said he didnt care, they should be capable of sorting it out between them. Didnt get a happy mothers day from H (as I am not his mother he tells me) but he did cook a lovely breakfast and i had a lie in.
AIBU?

Card, not a car from DD!

That's shitty behaviour from your DH. He should be setting an example to your DS and making him go and get you a card or make one.

Ten is old enough to sort something out himself (home made card would be fine), you're not your husband's mother but he did give you a lie in and breakfast not sure there's an issue other than your ten year old not being bothered. If you're teen helped her sister why didn't she help/remind her brother do they not get along?

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Your DH is teaching your DS to be a class A dick.

YANBU. I'd try and tackle this now. The world doesn't need another selfish arse.

I agree with above. If you daughter sorted out a card for her younger sister, why would she leave her brother out?

Maybe the younger DD asked the eldest one? I don't know why it's her DDs problem to sort her brother out - her DH is the adult he should be making him do it and show his appreciation to his mother.

Dd and DS do get along, i just thought it was a parents job to check they had cards for the other parent but according to H it is nothing to do with him and he doesnt care.

Is 10 really old enough to do this stuff themselves with no parental input?

Why did ythe older sister help her little sister, but not her little brother. If he cooked you breakfast and you got a lie in and cards and a present, I don't really see the problem.

I agree with your husband that you're not his mother so he doesn't wish you a Happy Mother's Day.

I almost agree with him that they should be able to sort it out themselves - to be fair, the teenager remembered and sorted out the little one (I'm assuming she's younger than the 10yo?). Whether she'd fallen out with her little brother or just assumed he was ok we don't know. Probably he's been prompted and led into making a card at school for the last couple of years so it didn't occur to her that he might need reminding.

It was mean of him to say he didn't care, though. And a quick check a few days beforehand is a dad's responsibility for several years longer than the age of ten! If only to stop the kid feeling awful when he realises.

When it comes to fathers day, don't help the children sort anything for him. Simple.

At ten it’s definitely the child responsibility to make sure happens.

My ten year old ensured that her younger siblings made cards and nagged her father to make sure her took her ought to buy flowers.

She then made afternoon tea