Not wanting to go on?

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My abusive ex-husband has shared 50/50 custody of our two boys. We have a Court Order in place and they are due to come back to me tomorrow (Mother's Day).

I've had an email tonight saying that as I'm pregnant and as my mum had cancer two years ago he will not be releasing the children to me "for the forseeable future". He wishes me well with the baby.

This is not the first time he has done something like this. I have reported him to the police many times before e.g. for entering our back garden and swearing and shouting at us, for sending nasty messages.

I'm 30 weeks' pregnant with my fiancé. I can't eat or sleep. I don't want to go on. Every time the baby kicks I just feel guilt.

The police say they can't help me.

Sorry I can't offer advice. But I didn't want to read and run. Someone will be along soon to help you out im sure. You can go on, for your children and your unborn baby. You've got this

What a dick. Been in your situation (not isolating but dick saying kids aren’t coming back) he did send them back but turned up late just to wind me up. You need to go on for your baby’s. If by some chance he doesn’t turn up I’d call to his house and take my kids back. Stay strong, tomorrow is a brighter day

Why can’t the police help if he’s essentially kidnapped your children in contravention of a court order?

@GalleyHead He's taken them before. The last time he took my eldest for seven days and I didnt even know where he was. He's allowed to because he has PR as well as I do. Police say they can't enforce the Court Order because it's a "civil matter."

@kittie01 He won't let them out of his house.

Log everything. Keep screenshots etc.
Can you get an emergency court hearing?
Courts must be open for emergencies?
Have proof of what's happened before?
The fucker needs to lose unsupervised contact.

Will he even let you speak to them on the phone?
You're not worried he will harm them or anything?

If you could, maybe leave him to it for a few days whilst keeping in contact with the children via phone calls, video calls etc?
if they are in no danger please try to remain as calm as possible.
You need to keep your unborn safe too.

I'm sorry this is happening to you OP.

And yes, definitely log everything.

@Notimeforaname He will only allow me to speak to them once a week. And even then sometimes not my youngest who is 9.
My eldest (12) has a phone but he does not let him call me on it. Eldest is not allowed to answer if I call.

He has told my eldest my baby will die if he comes to me and passes on the virus. Or if he sees my mum she will also die (she had cancer two years ago and is currently all clear).

Does he or either of the children have CV symptoms? If so, it’s advised they isolate for 14 days after the onset. Anything else, then he’s just being a dick.

I know you’ve posted a number of times about your difficult situation. Your boys aren’t that young, are they? Do they have mobile phones? Or even access to the internet, so you can contact them?

You need to take care of yourself and your little one though.

Sorry, cross posted.

Can you not text your eldest?

@Schuyler We believe ex has removed mobile from him as eldest will be distressed. I have texted but no reply.

No, no cv symptoms.

Get legal advice his behaviour is unstable and preventing contact is not right. He is breaking the custody agreement Ring a lawyer this coming week.
Including contact with the mobile phone being important for this sort of nonsense and the shite he is talking to your children you need to clarify to them it is just that.
This behaviour can be so stressful.