About no effort for first Mothering Sunday?

[Bubble77bee]

It’s my first Mothering Sunday as a Mum, and I’m feeling upset that my partner has done nothing to mark the occasion, not even a card. (I know it’s tomorrow, but I asked him, and he said it wasn’t a priority, with the current situation). Now, I know this might seem really petty, but he has form for this sort of thing. Last year I got nothing on my birthday. I think even if we weren’t in the midst of the corona virus crisis, he probably still wouldn’t have done anything. He spends hours every day online, but doesn’t think ahead to spend 5 mins ordering me a card. I’m not after grand gestures at all, just a little bit of thought and effort. AIBU to expect better, despite the current crisis our country is facing?

So you want him to buy you things so you can tell other people... that's basically what you've said. Even without the global pandemic that's pointless.

It's a day to appreciate your mother, your baby will make you cards when they're older and then you'll get gifts and things when they are grown. Just enjoy your baby for now.

My Mother's Day is a card my DD made at school, my first Mother's Day was a foot print we made at playgroup and I love it!

If he's thoughtless enough not to bother getting anything for your birthday then why did you think he would get anything for your mother's day? YANBU by the way but he's already set the precedent.

Coronavirus is an excuse. Supermarket near me packed with flowers, plants, books, cards. I’ve got my MIL a lovely plant, chocs and book, and doing my own mum a takeaway afternoon tea and flowers. Neither Cost more than £20

No reason he couldn’t have got you a card. I don’t really want gifts from my children but a card is nice. Nothing odd at all about fathers buying a card on behalf of their children. Just lazy and inconsiderate not to bother and I can understand why you feel upset

You're not his mother.

You are not your partner’s mum. Your children, when they are old enough to understand the concept, will remember the day.

YANU for being upset, it hurtful. However, YABU for thinking he would do anything differently than he had for past occasions. He's shown you who he is.

Most of us are in the same boat. Be thankful your baby is safe and well.