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To tell a very old ex about my dream

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Fruitytooty12 · 21/03/2020 06:11

Just had a profound and uplifting dream which had key family members from my life, including deceased, but the star person was an ex from decades ago. It was a short teen relationship which wasn’t massively lovey or anything.
Anyway, this dream was so uplifting and profound with loads of positivity about what’s going on now and an uplifting feeling. I feel like I want to tell him. Still in touch on social media. Aibu to want to tell him? He’ll probably think I’m a nutter! Maybe I am!! But it’s changed my perspective on what’s going on now and I feel like I’ve woken up just valuing life. I am married with kids. Anyway. Let me know your thoughts ......

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Fruitytooty12 · 21/03/2020 06:12

Not that I didn’t value life before, I mean it’s given me a different perspective on things

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legalseagull · 21/03/2020 06:13

I'd find it really weird if an ex told me this. Why would he care?

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Fruitytooty12 · 21/03/2020 06:16

He probably wouldn’t care! The more I think about it the more weird it seems!

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Fruitytooty12 · 21/03/2020 06:17

He was a bit kooky so he could appreciate it, but equally could think wtf and freak out slightly

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Casino218 · 21/03/2020 06:20

Nah I wouldn't tell him. Just focus on your own family and friends for now.

araiwa · 21/03/2020 06:36

Certainly a quick way to lose him on social media

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Fruitytooty12 · 21/03/2020 06:43

araiwa. That’s a good point!

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GalleyHead · 21/03/2020 06:46

If a teenage boyfriend from decades ago contacted me, I would have no idea who he was...

Minesacider · 21/03/2020 06:48

This might be one of those things that seems like a good idea at the time, but I always remember reading somewhere that the only person who actually cares about your dreams, is you!

Luc1nda · 21/03/2020 06:48

I’m curious as to why you want to do this. What purpose would it serve you?

(Slightly more MNy response- what would your current DP think?).

tellmetostopbutikeepongoing · 21/03/2020 06:52

Well it depends if it bothers you that he might think you're a bit weird, it wouldn't bother me! So if I really felt compelled to tell him because it was more than an ordinary dream then I would and I wouldn't lose sleep if he blocked me because of it.

pinkmagic1 · 21/03/2020 06:52

What happened in the dream?

BritishHorrorStory · 21/03/2020 06:56

No, don’t. You’re probably not a nutter, I’ve had intense dreams that have affected me for days afterwards before, but you will seem like one if you actually go and tell him about this one. Was it some sort of romantic or affair-based dream?

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Fruitytooty12 · 21/03/2020 07:21

It wasn’t an affair type dream. My husband didn’t exist. I think it was a historical and reflective dream. I’m not going to say anything. It was just my feeling on waking, but it’s better to keep it to myself (and the whole of the mumsnet world!)

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WifflyWaffle · 21/03/2020 09:00

I don’t think telling an ex about a dream is a good enough reason to contact them after years.

Crystal87 · 21/03/2020 09:18

Don't go there, you'll regret it immediately and feel stupid.

OhCaptain · 21/03/2020 09:22

I’d think you were completely batshit! But it would either amuse me, or scare me into blocking you! Grin

What is it that you want to share? Details or your feeling that you had some sort of spiritual experience?

Potatobug · 21/03/2020 09:24

It’s a sodding dream. Get a grip.

JKScot4 · 21/03/2020 09:26

historical, reflective, profound dream
I’m thinking you had a drink before bed.
Who on earth has a mini series style dream and wants to tell random ex’s about it??
🙄🤣🙄🤣🙄🤣🙄

RoseLalique · 21/03/2020 09:26

Please don’t, I doubt your dh would be too impressed. I’d probably go slightly batshit if my dh did that to his ex (but then I’m feeling a bit batshit in general these days)

RoseAndRose · 21/03/2020 09:31

If it had been The Pope, Noel Edmonds, your childhood nextdoor neighbour, the vicar, the nice man in the library - would you be dashing off to tell them?

Inappropriate? So's this

Isthistrueor · 21/03/2020 09:31

Don’t do this, you will feel immediately embarrassed if you do.

SmallChickBilly · 21/03/2020 09:33

Don't do this - I have a friend who insists on contacting her exes for spurious reasons, and it's always just an excuse to see if she can still have an 'impact' on them by dropping into their lives when they least expect/want it. Not saying that's your motivation, but there's no way to tell how your contact would be received and an ex you haven't spoken to since you were teenagers will probably not place as much importance on the contents of your dream as you seem to think he might!

headinthedrawer · 21/03/2020 13:13

This happened to me.A male school friend
from 30 years ago tracked me down via Facebook friends to tell me a dream he had about me.I didn't find it weird...I thought it was really nice and funny.No an ex though and it was a really weird dream.

Crispyturtle · 21/03/2020 13:39

There’s honestly nothing more dull than hearing about other people’s dreams, I really wouldn’t bother.