Want to divorce DH and now we are on lockdown together.

[Safiyah2020]

I've been debating divorcing my husband for the past year and have finally come to the conclusion that I can not continue to stay in this marriage. I love him however I really can't stand him.

I told him I want a divorce, he doesn't. Is now sulking and can see he's very happy we are now in a lockdown and can see him using it as a way to punish me.

Just with cocky behaviour and being a twat.

We live abroad in his country and are in full lockdown with no flights currently running either.

How am I going to survive this! Help! Is anyone else in a similar situation?

Try grey rock. www.e-counseling.com/mental-health/what-is-the-grey-rock-method/ I know it will be hard because he’s around a lot. But if you are consistent, there is more, rather than less likelihood that he will stay away.

The reasons perhaps why he is coming home is firstly because he’s hurt and wants you to hurt too and thus enjoying pissing you off. Secondly as you want a divorce and he doesn’t, he will want to be be close to your.

If you make yourself emotionally unavailable, it will allow him to find emotional distance and hopefully detach from you. Do expect it to get worse before it gets better as he will try to goad you into biting back.

yes i'm in the same position my husband has been away but is back on Tuesday. I am completely dreading it. Especially if we go into complete lockdown. He will be wfh too so it will be 24/7.

You can get through this. Take one day st a time. Focus on your twins and try to let everything negative thing he says or does go over your head. Meditate, breathe, stay calm and you can get through anything

Yes, in a very similar situation. My main worry is that now plans to move out have had to be postponed, he acts like things are all going to be fine. But at the same time I don't want to be constantly arguing now it looks like we're stuck here... Especially with two toddlers. Argh!

My heart really goes out to everyone stuck in this situation. My ex refused to move out until we'd agreed a settlement, and that took 5 years, and it was hell.

But at least we could go out and get away from each other, and we didn't have children.

Is he regularly going back to the other flat, OP? Have you enough food in so that you don’t need to go out for a couple of weeks? If so, I’d give him an hour or so until he’s at the other place, then keep your key in the lick and tell him he’s not getting back in. Fuck him. If you can get someone to drop a lick off or even change it, even better. Pay by card, keep your distance and clean the lock and surrounding area thoroughly afterwards.

OMG, may I join? This lockdown, plus working from home, plus home schooling AND worst of all going through a divorce, is actually a living hell!
I'm only just starting divorce proceedings and we can't agree on financial side of things. So stressful!

Yes @PixiePal your free to join.

Well he is now flat out refusing a divorce and is going between trying to be really nice and purposely not doing things that I dislike and trying to show me he is making self improvements to sulking and acting like a douche. Past few days he's been at our other home, but he will be back tomorrow for a night and I'm dreading it!